It's about my mom,she called me and tell so much thing that depressed me. First of all she told me that I'm nothing and then I can't help anybody for nothing. She said that I never give her some money then I'm a bad girl. I said: but mom you know I have nothing(I don't work). She said yes but you have a husband.
She needs me take money from my husband for her and my brothers. I don't like that. How I can do this to him? I don't know why but I feel if I continue to listen to her my marriage will be ruined.
2006-11-13 11:21:44 · 15 answers · asked by lounalove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a difference between a mother and a mommy. A mother gave birth to you a mommy loves you unconditionally and treats you like gold. Just because she gave birth to you doesn't mean you owe her a damn thing. The way she disrepsects you is absolutely atrocious. Your married your husband comes first, talk to him for comfort you don't need that from your mother.
2006-11-13 11:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What helped me is reading "Power of a Praying Woman" by Stormie Omartian. Prayer is very powerful.
Do not do what your mother tells you or asks of you. Your husband is above your mother now that you're married. You have to talk with your husband and be in agreement together. Do not go behind his back. Be honest with him. Be honest with your mother as well. Tell her you can't be going behind your husband back. If your mom wants to borrow money, she will have to ask your husband and not put pressure on you.
But Praying will really bring alot of joy & peace in your heart that is unexplainable.
I pray the best for you, hubby & your mom.
God Bless!
2006-11-14 05:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this.....all you have to do is tell her your husband won't give her any money and the way she speaks to you is horrible of a mother....She should be saying your a great daughter and she loves you no matter what and your special and unique just the way you are if you can help her or not.... If it was my mum I'd tell her to get a job.
2006-11-13 19:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to your husband and find out if he would be willing to give your mother a one-time gift.
Then you take it to your mother and tell her to never ask you for money again.
You're mostly doing this for your brothers not her...and this way you won't feel guilty about not helping her.
2006-11-13 19:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you may love your mother, there have to be boundaries. She is a grown woman, and the fact that she has no money should not fall on you, and definitely not on your husband. Don't let her ruin your marriage, especially over money. Your money is YOURS, you only have to share it if you want to, and if you can't, you can't. :)
2006-11-13 19:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by army g/f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any mother who would tell their child that she is nothing is not a good mother. And she wants money from you too?
My advice...stop answering the phone. That will eliminate the negative conversations with her as well as her requests for money.
2006-11-13 19:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop communication with your mother at once. If she has nothing nice to say you need to let her know ; "Mom if you can't call me and say nothing nice, or if you call for something I'm not obligated for I will no longer speak to you." You cannot let your mom run your marriage!Honey and please don't make it your bussiness if mom has no money to support her babies!!
2006-11-13 19:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbow Brite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take money from your household to give to your mom, she is telling u that u are bad because she thinks by saying thise things to u, that u will cave in and bring her money. if u take from your husband, than if he finds out, he will not trust u anymore, and without trust it is nearly impossibble to have a happy marriage. she is holding u emotional hostage, it is not your husband's responsibility to take care of them, nor is it yours. mom is responsible for herself.
2006-11-13 19:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please listen up, when you married him you divorced your immediate family. in other words, your primary responsibility is too your husband. no matter w hat. if your mom wants money ,shell have to get it somewhere else. i know youll always love her no matter what, but honey, protect your husbabd and your marriage. god bless your home.
2006-11-14 05:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your mother is a good person?
Do you want to be like her?
You know what to do.
2006-11-13 19:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋