Ok, my husband and I have been married for 5years i had no clue he watched porn and masturbate why do men do this should it be because I am not satisfying him or why???
He doesn't know I found them should I tell him I know?
Should I join him I need serious answers?
I please him in anyway I can!!!
2006-11-13 11:17:00 · 11 answers · asked by Jazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know guys like porn but why keep on watching ans masturbating when you have someone to please you?
2006-11-13 11:22:21 · update #1
Men need to be visually stimulated, unlike women who are stimulated by emotions such as touch and romanticness. Men on the otherhand are stimulated by what they see.
You might be satisfying him just fine, but what he wants is to see more then just you, maybe lesbians, or group sex, and the such. All of which is evil by the way.
If he is hiding porn from you, then he is being decietful. If he is hiding it from you, he knows it is wrong. This must be addressed, not so you can join him in doing evil, but help him cease from it.
If he likes looking at porn that much, then have him take pictures of you in sexy situations. It is not sinful to view your spouse in this way. But it is sinful to look upon another woman not being your spouse and lusting after her.
If you ask if he is looking at porn, and he says no, then you have caught him in a lie, lying to you, this is definately not good, and needs to be addressed, if he is lying to you about this, he surely can lie to you about other things as well.
Porn is a huge problem in marriages, it will only make him or her distance himself or herself from their spouse. The worse problem with porn is, it gets progressively worse. a man will be turned on by seeing women in bathing suits, but after they see that all the time, they want to see more, then they are no longer turned on by bathing suits and want to see them naked, then after a while even that is not doing it for them, then they want to see women with women, then women with a bunch of men, then women with animals, then eventually if it gets real bad they will desire to see children. So then it is best never to get started looking at that stuff.
Don't let society fool you, it is a problem and needs to be addressed.
2006-11-14 07:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Help? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have taken this personal and it isn't personal if porn offends you so much than ask him no to watch it any more after all guys it's all lighting hair extensions and computer touch ups...it's not real it's acting and selling your body some people find this highly offencive some do not. Again porn is addictive and so is masturbation so that can also be an issue is he addicted to this? None of this is your fault or makes you in-able to please him all of this is his issues....communicate with him look up some site and make your own mind up on what will and won't be in your relationship.
2006-11-13 19:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing. He's waxing himself because he's not getting enough from you.
Porn is a tool for some. To provide stress relief or to provide idea's for the both of you. There is a third and that's if a person has an addiction.
Bottom line... Live is always better than Memorex.
2006-11-13 19:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him.
If it bothers you, you'll need to address the issue further.
If not, and the porn is not objectionable to you (i.e. child porn or other things you think he should NOT be interested in), don't worry about it.
If you want to join him, try it out. If you find out you're not comfortable, you don't have to stick with it.
Some men are just pigs (as in greedy, can't get enough sex). Unless he says you don't satisfy him, it's his gross problem.
2006-11-13 19:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women will tell you that it's a terrible thing while men will tell you that it's normal. I would listen to the men because they know what a man feels.
You might try joining him...it could be lots of fun.
2006-11-13 19:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men need to be visually stimulated, unlike women who are stimulated by emotions such as touch and romanticness. Men on the otherhand are stimulated by what they see.
You might be satisfying him just fine, but what he wants is to see more then just you, maybe lesbians, or group sex, and the such. All of which is evil by the way.
If he is hiding porn from you, then he is being decietful. If he is hiding it from you, he knows it is wrong. This must be addressed, not so you can join him in doing evil, but help him cease from it.
If he likes looking at porn that much, then have him take pictures of you in sexy situations. It is not sinful to view your spouse in this way. But it is sinful to look upon another woman not being your spouse and lusting after her.
If you ask if he is looking at porn, and he says no, then you have caught him in a lie, lying to you, this is definately not good, and needs to be addressed, if he is lying to you about this, he surely can lie to you about other things as well.
Porn is a huge problem in marriages, it will only make him or her distance himself or herself from their spouse. The worse problem with porn is, it gets progressively worse. a man will be turned on by seeing women in bathing suits, but after they see that all the time, they want to see more, then they are no longer turned on by bathing suits and want to see them naked, then after a while even that is not doing it for them, then they want to see women with women, then women with a bunch of men, then women with animals, then eventually if it gets real bad they will desire to see children. So then it is best never to get started looking at that stuff.
Don't let society fool you, it is a problem and needs to be addressed.
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2006-11-13 19:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by DiscipleDave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with you not satisfying him. Guys just like that kind of thing. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-11-13 19:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, it has nothing to do with you and anything you can and do for him. he is a sick puppy that need counseling. He won't go, I can promise you that. he will tell you that there is nothing wrong with him, it's normal for guys to do that. That is pure b/s. he doesn't respect you or your wishes. hope there are no kids involved.
2006-11-13 19:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it.
Porn is fantasy for those with a bad imagination.
2006-11-13 19:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this site, it helped me a lot. I made my husband read the article.
2006-11-13 19:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋