I'm 19 years old and I sometimes get depressed because I don't like myself. I mean I'm not ugly, but is something that I don't discuss with no one. I used to listen to rap/reggaeton and I've quit listening to them because most of their lyrics are full of hate and vanity (there is no more soul to most of these music). Of course I haven't entirely giving up on these two genres because there are still talented artists who either sing about real day issues or love. Sometimes I get angry and I turn into gangsta rap (I don't want to by the way). What music do you suggest that I should listen to when I'm stress/angry? Then there is my porn addiction. I want to quit, but I can't. What do you suggest? I'm a real bright kid in school, and I like reading. It takes me to some other person's life (more interesting than my own life). I sometimes want to cry, or commit suicide(well really no, but I think of it). I even get happy when I go to sleep. I get really sad. Give me some advice
2006-11-13 11:09:57 · 8 answers · asked by Loving Life, Always, and Forever 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Well, I'm not really addicted to porn. I just think that is bad because so many people say so. To tell you the truth I enjor porn, I watch it on weekends, but again I feel guilty because so many people say it's a sin. To sum it all up I believe in God, but I barely believe in the Bible.
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Beisdes this I exercise for an hour daily. I watch news and comedy shows like the Wayne Brothers. I read books like The Battle of Jericho, and play video games.
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Oh yeah and I think I'm very emotional because I literaly "love" this girl, but I'm scare of rejection.
2006-11-13 11:12:12 · update #1
Wow...so young - with all of that? Sweetie, you should relax and enjoy life. If you really are having bouts of depression, you might want to talk to someone professionally about that as there are ways to combat it (naturally or with medicine). I'm glad you see that listening to any kind of music that is negative for the soul is a waste of energy to the ears. If you can find music that's calming and relaxing - music with lyrics that bring a smile to your lips, that's what you should let your ears enjoy. I personally listen to music I grew up on in high school (old school and R&B) because there was no cause for war, there was just love and loving life. We did have songs from the Temptations about every day issues but the mixed in a lot of love too. If you are stressed or angry, you definitely have to listen to something soothing - even instrumental. I think if you look at porn, there really is no problem (unless you're spending too much money downloading movies or it is child porn). Possibly, you need to get physical to relieve some of that...curiosity. :) I'm not condoning just going out having sex - but find some way to get release in the "real" time. If you like reading (I'm an avid reader), I would suggest perusing Amazon.com and check out the latest and greatest. Join a book club - I'm in one and I love it. This will also occupy your mind from the depression that makes you so sad and unhappy.
If you are in love with a girl, another way to perk up your life is to try and make conversation with her. I understand you are hesitant because you don't want to get rejected but you will never know if she likes you unless you try. If you're afraid to talk face to face at first, send her a note and get her email address. Then go from there. Next thing you know, you both will be talking about the latest trends, movies, books, etc.
Come on - you can do it! :)
2006-11-13 11:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, you have nothing to fear. You are not alone in depression even for one so young. I would start off by going to your doctor and confiding some of you feelings to him/her. They can prescribe you some medication that will actually help you feel better.
Now don't be frightened by that thought as its not that scary as you may think. My partner has OCD and suffers from depression and is on medication to treat her depression at the moment. Think of it as a temporary solution until you can work out your problems.
Councilling is another option for you to look at and while you feel that you must protect your privacy and issues from the world it actually help to talk to those people who know how to listen and offer the right kind of advice. Again my partner sees several people about her issues and it does wonders for her.
Music is a way to express yourself and realease your tension through the rhythem flowing about you. When you are angry you feel listning to angry music brings to life how you feel. I myself listen to Eminem and various rap artists when I am angry. Or when I feel sad I listen to mellow music like Coldplay or Taxiride. James Blunt if I am feeling good etc. Don't judge yourself as a person by the type of music you listen to. Music is art not self portraits to criticize.
Porn is great, no need to feel ashamed. Orgasms make you feel good and relieve stress quite nicely! Just remember that you are not a bad person for achieving climax as it is a natural thing to do. I have many friends that have entire 160GB harddrives dedicated to their porn movies and pictures. My only suggestion to you would be to get a partner to share some of these experiences with as it seems that you need some real human contact rather than lonely loving.
I love reading as well, what do you read? To escape into another's realm is a wonderous thing. I am an avid fantasy fan myself and I read all sorts of fantasy books ranging from the Harry Potter series to Katherine Kerrs Devvery series (a fantastic read of 13 books so far with 2 more on the way). I also play World of Warcraft MMORPG to escape reality and enjoy an online social scene. Just remember to live as well, go out with friends and enjoy life.
Sadness is a state of mind which you can change and although it may seem so hard to do, its really not. My advice is this; see a doctor and know you are not alone, medication and councilling don't make you a freak, seek human contact, go to dances, social groups, join a sporting team and get out there to meet new people. Live life, love life my friend. Good Luck.
PS. I just noticed your additional comments about a girl. The worst she can say is no. If she laughs or scorns you, she wasn't worth it in the first place and you are better off knowing than not knowing. Have courage and take a chance, life is too short to waste it on idle fears.
2006-11-13 19:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by geronemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, drama much? How bout some good 80's classics? Cinderella, Scorpians, Guns & Roses. As for your addiction, is it a problem? I've watched porn my whole life- (I'm a 40 year old female btw) and I've never missed work or molested anyone. I have a very healthy sex life (and I watch it all). How is porn a problem for you? I know how gambling can be, alchohol, or drugs, but PORN? Unless you're predisposed to be a child molester, why not?
2006-11-13 19:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Freakgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can get the answers you are looking for here on "Yahoo Answers" you need to get professional help for some of the things you are struggling with. If you feel guilty about watching porn then something inside you knows you should not be. Here is a resource for that.
2006-11-13 19:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by nothingcreativecametomind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to love urself don't hate ur self cus u putting down urself it's no gult to watch a porno just know u like everybody elese all things will come in right timeput god first in ur lif e give him all troubles and be glad ur live and not sick don't rush with girls when time is right she will appear accept life as it comes feel free and bit careless loosen up urself and u will be fine and divine check it out some spiritual sides on the internet just entre spirituality and read and apply that stay away from any crap like religion the will wear u out and make u guilty god bless u
2006-11-13 19:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead n watch porn! who cares? i believe in god too, but i dont believe in all those bible stories. i listen to reggaeton n hiphop but i dont really pay attention to the lyrics. im not sure wat u should do, u confused me too. eat sum candy corn or any other food that makes u happy
2006-11-13 19:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe u could c a councelor or something
P.S.
I think porn is WRONG & EWWW!
2006-11-13 19:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by lost in translation. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you never take a chance you will never win. we all get rejected sometimes, but it is really great when we take a chance and win.
2006-11-13 19:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋