My wife can treat an ant better than she treats me. I try my hardest to love her with all I've got. I can't be her perfect man but I can try to do my best. She's still cold as an iceberg and manipulative with her mouth. How do I control this woman before I crack?
2006-11-13 11:04:16 · 15 answers · asked by Smoooooooth! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well Smooooooooth (why exactly are you using that name and then bashing your wife publicly...I don't know that I would consider that particularly "Smooth") - looks like she's frustrated, and if I were you, I would concentrate on doing those little things she's been askin' you to do.
Remember the one most important rule of a happy marriage: A happy wife equals a happy life!
Most likely she's not asking for much, but it's just enough to inconvenience you - so you ignore it, and put it off until you just can't avoid it anymore. That in turn pisses her off and causes a crappy attitude. It's called give and take. If she does things for you - you should be doing things for her.
Don't ignore her or try to beat her down- maybe you should listen to why she's so angry. Maybe you can find a way to HELP her - not "Shut her up!"
Shame on you - stop being to selfish!
2006-11-13 11:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most who have answered before me are right, you can not control your lady. However, what you can do is look to yourself for some answers.
Have you asked your wife, "WHY" does she treat you this way?
Why do you allow her do treat you this way?
How long have you allow yourself to be mistreated?
Do you think you deserve better?
If you do think that you deserve better, can you get it from her?
If you don't believe that you'll ever be treated better from your spouse, then you should think about counseling or separating.
If you don't get it straight now, then the next person that happens to come into your life will ultimately end up treating you the same way.
2006-11-13 19:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by LadyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she frustrated with you and trying her best to keep things together, give a smooth illusion to others, but showing you more than a shadow of the truth?
If you married someone to control her, then you should have married a video game, not a person.
Try harder, communicate...NICELY...coz she's already cracking. Two cracked people can learn to treat each other as royalty, genuinely, if they fix what is broken.
2006-11-13 20:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to lay the law down of how you want to be treated and give her examples of how you treat her. Maybe she will see there is a big difference. My husband did that with me and I realized I had to change or be alone. He put up with more sh-- then most men would. If she won't see how what she is doing is hurting you then you need to look into divorce court. You can't stay with someone who treats you bad and you keep giving your all. You'll only hate her and be bitter later. Have a talk with her though, a serious heart to heart. Good luck!
2006-11-13 19:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe you can control her. Have you spoken with your wife regarding her behavior and coldness? If you have and she hasn't attempted to change her behavior, perhaps it's time to move on. Adult people typically are set in their ways and do not change.
2006-11-13 19:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lawana C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife sounds like she is not getting something, you are not trying hard enough or you have stopped doing something you use to do, if she is a natural ***** get a divorce.
2006-11-13 19:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well i'm a woman and i can tell you she is wanting someone else because i did my husband the same way right before i left his sorry *** i'm not saying your a sorry man it sounds like your a good man it is her with the problem so just let her go you need a good woman sounds like
2006-11-13 19:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by kimsmokes2005 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
- give her all the compliments and pumping up you can and see what happens- it may bowl her over- be very appreciative for any little thing she does0 meals, cooking, cleaning, sex, working ect- a soft answer turns away wrath-D
2006-11-13 19:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first i would tell to cut it out or your gone. Second she dont lesson on how you feel I would divorce her *** and if you have kids tack them with you to show her that you can do better even with kids.
2006-11-13 19:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by that one name 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Common side affect of marriage. They haven't found a cure yet.
2006-11-13 19:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋