... know that they are? And how do you deal with it to point it out to them?
2006-11-13 11:03:51 · 7 answers · asked by Muse 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some are aware and some are just so used to being that way they really are unaware of just to what extent their abusiveness reaches.
When the person is calm try talking to them about it . Try recording it for them to hear/see. It will not be easy for them to hear or understand or change.
2006-11-13 12:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with this one. Unfortunately...these people are all dealing from the same play book. Check out some websites on abuse and on narcissism. These people are harmful to be in relationships with....because it really doesn't matter whether they know they are hurting you or not....because they will continue to do it because they hate themselves so much that putting you down or blaming you or others is the only way they can temporarily feel good about themselves. By the way narcissists and abusers have less of a cure rate on a shrink's couch than pedophiles - primarily because they don't think they DO have a problem - so why would they go get help? They don't. They don't seek treatment and they will resent you asking that they do. I'm sure you are not a masochist...so get out now is my advice....because take it from someone who has been there - not only does it not get better, it can take a long-term toll on your self-esteem. Waste of your time and energy any which way you cut it. Good luck.
2006-11-13 20:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by paperorplastic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i was a naive little critter and dint know my first little boyfriend was a manipulative controller, i was psychologically abused. i was blamed for everything, he would convince me that everything wrong in the world (and really with him) was my fault. even when he broke up with me, he blamed me for not begging to come back to him. ya see people who are abusers have a serious mental problem, they convince themselves, along with others around them: with what they want to believe. and they truly believe it. that's why u cant give people like that a second chance, they will continue to hurt u and blind themselves to that. and their selfishness keeps them from letting others tell them they have a problem.
show them some tough love, tell them they have a problem, if they refuse to get help. just forget them, their not changing.
2006-11-13 20:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
With my experience. the abuser of that sort is completely hopless. They usually attack the ones they love because they hate themselves. usually when they are spoken to about it, no matter how gently, they will freak out completely and just get worse. My advise is to keep as far away from them as possible and if possible try to get them to see a shrink on a weekly basis.
2006-11-13 19:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph K 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course not and unfortunately you being the victim, I think, can not point it out you need to go to a therapist who can sit down and tell both of you what you need to work on otherwise it turns into a pissing match where you go back and forth on who does what!
2006-11-13 19:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They know, and are most likely victims of abuse of their past.
2006-11-13 19:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
people that are in need of help ,but they don't know how to accept
it! i mean they a problem with themselves but they blame others
for it,or they have a problem with (B) but redirect their problem
to (C)and in a more simple term they are cowards
2006-11-13 21:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Byzantino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋