Is 20 too young to get married?

Question

My friend has been seeing her boyfriend for only 18 months and she's 20. Do you think this is too young to get married?

I think she is too young but I don't know how to tell her and feel a bit weird about doing so because she's asked me to be bridesmaid.

Answer 1

In this day and age twenty is entirely too young to get married.

1. You have not finished or just finished college have an entry level job and do not have much money saved.
2. You know so little about life and relationships you have no idea what life experiences you need to have before getting married.
3. You might get pregnant and that stops ALL progress financially. A good chunk of you income will go to a raising your child. With you not having any substantial savings, this will place you and your husband in a big bind.
4. Eighteen months is NO TIME in the overall span of your life to consider marriage. That's less than 10 percent of the entire time you have been alive. You need to REALLY get to know someone prior to making a commitment of that sort.

Just my opinion.

Answer 2

I got married around that age an yes it turned out to be a mistake. But who is to say what is too young. People get married at 20 and stay together a lifetime. And others get married at 30 and divorce in a year. If they love each other then go for it. As long as they are sure it's what they want, it's not too young.

Answer 3

Absolutely, way too young. There is too much of life that needs to be experienced before you settle down with someone and 20 isn't even of legal age to experience the half of it. Go out have fun dont get married until you have dated until you are bored with it, until you have travelled and visited all the places you have ever dreamed of. Make some great memories while you are single and then when your done, make some great memories with your someone special so that you can show him all you have seen.

Answer 4

I saw my Ex-wife for 2.5 years before getting married 4 years later I am in court. I got married at 20. People change in there 20's you either grow together or apart. Depending on the life you want i would recommend not doing it. Enjoy dating each other or being engaged till 24-25.

Answer 5

My husband and I were married 5 years ago, when we were both 18. I don't think age plays into marriage, these days. People are so quick to jump into relationships and then get divorces. Tell your friend to make sure she realizes that what she is doing is FOREVER and that she is taking a vow in front of many people and God. That if she feels she knows this is the person with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life, then go for it.... and if she's not sure, then maybe she should wait.

Answer 6

I was married at 20 but in the 80's....I think now days the norm seems to be marry in your late 20's to early 30's. Allot of marriages that start out young wont last because as you grow older your wants and needs change and most times his will change in your opposite direction...Make sure she has thought about everything before making this decision. Kids, family, religion, jobs, careers, where you want to live, where you want the marriage to go in the future...etc..

Answer 7

absolutely. I got married at 23, and I am getting divorced at 36 because as you grow into a mature adult, you figure out what you need. At 20, you don't know. If you get married at 20, stats show you will be divorced by 26 (practice marriage.) And take it from me, divorce is NOT CHEAP!

Answer 8

Absolutely. What's the rush?

I think most young people who get married do so more out of fear of being alone than out of genuine love (most people under 30 don't even know what love is really all about!). They're the ones who cheat on their spouses, end up in couples counseling, and get divorced before they even know who THEY are, let alone know their partner.

Answer 9

I worked with my current fiancee for a year and dated him for only 6 months and we got engaged. I am 20 and he is 27, we are currently living together and we are getting married next July. I don't think its too young at all....different strokes for different folks.

Answer 10

It depends on the couple. I am 30 and will be getting married next year. I wanted to accomplish my career goals etc first. As for your friend just be supportive of her decision.