me and my partner, had sex for the 1st time. it was so quick that i didnt even break that skin up there and it didnt hurt or nuttin. (i heard that the 1st time u bleed and it hurts cause u break through ur skin) he didnt even go up that high, but i havent gotten my period since august 3rd. i dont feel any different i just think my stomach grew a little but i havnt gained wait and my partner promised me that he wouldnt do anything to get me pregnant. i am very sports active and work out alot, and thats wat my mom said is the reason i havent gotten my period in so long. but im nervouse that i could be pregnant. i didnt use a condom but the sex was so quick i didnt think anything could happen. can someone help me cause i really cant be pregnant it would ruin me. im so young and i cant handle it cause ever since ive missed my period ive been beatin myself up and cuttin myself. so can some one help me know if im pregnant PLEASE!!! cause i reallly need to know.
2006-11-13 10:52:06 · 13 answers · asked by Baby-Bop 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, don't panic, and please don't "hurt yourself". Get a home pregnancy test, you may not even be pregnant.
Unfortunately both you and your boyfriend are "misinformed" about "conception". It doesn't matter if your boyfriend was "quick" and it didn't "break the skin", you can still become "pregnant". Not everyone "bleeds" the first time they have intercourse.
I am very concerned about the fact that you are "cutting" yourself, this is NOT normal behavior! You sound very immature and you need some professional help immediately. If you are afraid to talk to your mother, then go talk to someone at your school, maybe a guidance counsellor.
Go to Planned Parenthood if you can't get a home pregnancy test and talk to them. They might be able to help you or offer some advice.
Even if you are pregnant, this is "not the end of the world". Believe me, I know. My first child wasn't "planned", I was 18 and unmarried. I was absolutely "terrified" about what my father would say. And you know what, my father surprised me. He was loving and supportive and together our family worked it all out.
I am now in my 50's and have been happily married to my husband for 35 years. My three children are all grown and have families of their own. I'm telling you this so you understand that no matter how terrible your present situation may seem, you can get through it and still have a wonderful future.
Talk to your mother, you need her now. You are too young to make any decisions by yourself. She loves you and no matter how upset she may be initially, she will be there for you.
If you aren't pregnant, please use "protection" if you are going to be "intimate" with anyone in the future. I hope this turns out well for you, best of luck.
2006-11-13 11:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how quick it is, you always have a chance of becoming pregnant when you have sex. Notice that I didn't say unprotected sex. Birth control has been known to fail, and condoms sometimes break. Having unprotected sex increases your risk of pregnancy and disease.
Now, assuming he did not ejaculate inside you (I assume that is what he was referring to when he promised not to get you pregnant.) there is something called pre-ejaculation. The man is not able to feel when this happens. A little bit of semen comes out and into you. That means you can get pregnant.
Not every woman bleeds or feels pain the first time they have sex. Your hymen could have already been torn by your sports or workout activities.
Since you have not had a period in almost 3 months, it is well past time you took a pregnancy test. You can buy one in any pharmacy for about $15. Regardless of the results of that test, you should make an appointment to see a doctor. If the test is positive, you will need to start prenatal care and if the test is negative you will need to find out why you are not having your period.
2006-11-13 11:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, the first step is to CALM DOWN! Stress can cause you not to have a period.
Second... The first time you have sex, doesn't always hurt. Its diffrent for diffrent people.
Third... If you don't feel any diffrent, more than likely you aren't pregnant... If it has been since August you should feel some diffrent.
Go and buy a pregnancy test from wal-mart or the dollar general. They are cheap enough just to see, if you are that far along it will show up positive. Just don't stress out.
Everything will work out to the best, you just have to have faith and patients! Good luck, and God Bless.
2006-11-13 10:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rileigh's MOMMY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like my answer most likely but I have to be honest. If you are cutting yourself I dont think you should be in a relationship yet. If you dont love you, you cant love someone else. Cutting is self destructive and if you are being self destructive whats to say it wont branch out into other parts of your life. The fact that you have had sex without a condom supports my ideas on that. Get yourself some help, learn to love you then try for a relationship.
Regardless of how long the sex lasted or how far he got his penis in is irrelevant. Semenal fluid anywhere near the vaginal opening can result in pregnancy. You need to get a preg test then you can be sure of whether or not you are in fact pregnant. Also, alot of women dont gain weight when they are in their first trimester so dont let that be your deciding factor.
I dont mean to be so blunt with you but pregnancy is serious.
2006-11-13 11:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright hon ... calm down. Do you have a way to get to a drug store? Go to Walgreens and pick up a pregnancy test. Or, if you don't have any way to buy one, get yourself to Planned Parenthood. They'll give you a pregnancy test and birth control for free. Don't wait any longer. It's been three months and if you are pregnant, you'll need to see a doctor as soon as possible.
You've probably already figured this out ... but you can get pregnant your first time. No matter how deep he goes, if any semen escapes, you can get pregnant. If you dodge the bullet time and you're not ... you need to get on birth control if you're going to be sexually active.
Please ... go get a test ... go find out ASAP. If you're pregnant, you'll have to make some serious decisions pretty quickly. Best of luck!
2006-11-13 10:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bonny K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 12:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. First things first always have the guy wear a condom. also your mom might be right about the reason why you haven't gotten your period. But if your worried you should get a pregnancy test. If its postive you have to think about what your gonna do. This is your choice on what to do. Just on a side note you shouldn't be hurting yourself because of this... its not gonna make anything better, it could actually make things worst. Your life isn't over. you have so much to look forward to please don't hurt yourself anymore. also if your not pregnant you should get on birth control. just to be safe. i hope this helps you. =)
2006-11-13 11:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pee on a stick - buy a pregnancy test
go see your family doctor
depending on how old your are or how long you have been getting your period it, because it takes about four to five years for your period to regulate
or like your mother said it could be from all the sports you are doing plus if you eat as much as you work out you gain weight
"PREGNANCY TEST"
2006-11-13 10:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by bri c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a thing that girls do if they are scared that they are pregnant its all in the head and it will screw your period up. you think you are so you will create the symptons. your best bet is to take a pregnancy test. and next time use a condom if your not smart enough to use a condom then you are mature enough to be having sex.
2006-11-13 11:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by little bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a pregnancy test! but if you havnt had a period since august then i think by now it would be noticable that your pregnant.
2006-11-13 11:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by seximamii17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋