From a Spiritual point of view do you divorce? Or just live seperate?

Question

My husband moved out months ago at first we were trying to work out our problems but now it seems like we're so distant he finally even stopped calling, we both attend the same church we see each other there and he doesn't even say hello he walks by, so now what do I do? do I stay married to him even though he's gone or do I divorce him? and with what reason? based on feeling is a definate nono,,,he hasn't cheated, he hasn't turned away from God, so what would it be based on? We've tried the marriage classes but we stopped going, we have couples who council us but if he's not talking to me then what?

Answer 1

Sometimes people marry for the wrong reasons and the marriage never worked, and sometimes the marriage was made in heaven, but people in their ignorance trample the gift of God. From a spiritual point of view, people can endure a life without love and secretly pray for death every day, or they can trust divine love to guide their life into what God really wants for them, purity, honesty, and love. Many people stay together because of feeling guilty and this is a shame, because they live sad and unproductive lives, living a lie. Separation is a good first step, but not the end of the line by any means. If in your heart you know there is no love in your marriage, then you are missing out on what God wants you to have. In life we learn from our mistakes so that they will never be repeated in all of eternity. So it is simple. You must let God guide your heart and actions forever.

Answer 2

I would give it some more time and continue to go to church and the counseling, turn it over to god and continue praying on it, I can't guarantee how long things will take or if it will all turn out the way you want it ,but from my personal experience with my situation, no matter what I did she still didn't talk to me , I gave a little over a year, and now I've decided it's time for some closure, it takes two to make any relationship work, so once you have given it your all and you know in your heart you have honestly tried, I'm quite sure god will allow you to let go and make the right decision, Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 3

Well, of course divorce, in the spiritual aspect, is wrong. But you can't stay married but seperate forever. If there is no way that you guys can resolve your issues and live as husband and wife than you should divorce on the grounds of irreconsilable differences. No sin is greater than the other (besides for blasphemy and suicide), so if either of you decide to persue other people (further down the road), it will be the same sin if you were to divorce.

Answer 4

Not everyone is always going to get along in marriage... Sounds like you two have gone your separate ways - don't you want to move on and find a person whom you might have better luck with? If having a family is your goal, you're wasting your time hanging on to a dead relationship. Before you know it, you will be considered "too old". Don't let it happen. Learn your lessons, and put the past behind you.

Answer 5

You have not told us what happened to justify his behavior. Since he's not talking to you it seems like you did something to cause the silent treatment.

If you were caught in infidelity, what do you expect? He's hurt to no end and can't believe you betrayed him.

At least he was going at first. Maybe he will resume the sessions in the future. It would be a good idea to keep trying to get him to start talking again.

On the other hand if he was caught in infidelity, he no longer cares about the relationship. If this is the case, don't bother, you have lost him forever.

Answer 6

Pray. Biblically, if he has turned away from you for whatever reason, then he is "Divorcing" you. If there is definatley nothing either of you have done to warrant this behaviour then you need to confront him and ask him outright what is causing his leaving-and be submissive!!!too often couples are torn apart because the woman believe's she has the right to run the houshold!!e. Remember tho that if you don't stick to councilling then you won't be councilled-I'm married to a divorced man-he had biblical grounds for divorce(infidelity) but he worked at keeping the marriage together for 7 years! That's commitment!! If he (yours) isn't working at it then he is uncommitted.....but if you have children you owe it to them to try to work it out. If confrontation does not work, leave it for 6 months- let him be incomminicado, then approach him; try to start again, but start from " Hi, my name is.......would you consider getting dinner....? It worked for my sister!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

My beliefs are really Buddhist. As I recognize it, we come into the international, not as a changeless and eternal soul, yet as a bypass of know-how, shaped by who we were and what we've done in previous lives. we stay this existence, which in its turn adjustments and modifies us - for the more effective or the more serious. We die, and now this replaced bypass of know-how strikes by a realm said as the Bardo the position we may be able to review what we've done. and then the approach starts again, with yet another beginning. finally this bypass turns into enlightened, recognize its authentic nature, and merge again with the source from which it sprang. The Buddha by no potential spoke about God and such concerns. For him, the most suitable objective replaced into the end of that suffering it really is inseparable from being human. i desire my brevity doesn't offend any Buddhist scholars, yet that it does fulfill the questioner.

Answer 8

according to the bible you can't divorce him unless he cheats.

you'll have to just continue living separately until you are able to work things out, or until one of you decides to commit adultery. that's the only grounds for divorce, and even then, it's only if the partner who was wronged chooses to divorce the other party.

i'm not saying one of you SHOULD commit adultery. I'm saying when you got married you agreed not to be with anyone else "till death do us part". so no, divorce is not the answer. sounds rude the way he's treating you, but maybe you are both stubborn.

i know of a Christian woman whose husband cheated. she showed him how committed she was to their marriage by continuing to make his lunch for him every day (as she had done for their entire marriage) and delivered it to where he was staying. she didn't do this as an excuse to be able to see him, or spy on what he was up to, or anything. they were honest with each other.

she delivered his lunch every morning before he had to leave for work (i think he was staying in a hotel) to show him she would keep holding up her end of the bargain (their marriage commitment) until she died. this woman went above and beyond what even christians expect, she stayed faithful and committed to her husband while he was cheating openly with a woman!

i just looked this up today for myself. check out this website and all its offshoots (the things you can click on on the bottom). it's very helpful.

there is no easy out. try to live up to what the woman i told you about did.

Answer 9

You almost need to counsel with the Pastor or leaders of the Church you attend, I believe you should not divorce except in cases of extreme abuse, child molestation, alcohol/drug abuse, or unfaithfulness, even at that there are lots of gray areas.
You really need to have the Church involved for guidence and support. Most of all pray.

Answer 10

He's not trying to make the marriage work. And to walk right by you and not even acknowledge you. What an insult! Is that what is keeping him close to God these days?