im 17 and pregnant. my mom wants me to abort. my boyfriend says that were not ready to be parents. my mom went over to my boyfriends house to speak to his mom. she was fine with it until my mom told her she doesnt want me to have it..now my boyfriends mom doesnt want me to have it and thinks i should just listen to my mom...it feels like i have NO support at all...please help what should i do?
2006-11-13 10:15:06 · 20 answers · asked by KDUB100 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't listen to your mom, your boyfriend, or your boyfriends mom. Do what you think is right. But, whatever you do, DON'T get an abortion. It is murder. There are a lot of parents out there who can't have childeren and there a teens out there just killing them. If you arn't ready to be a parent yet have your baby and somebody adopt him/her. There are a lot of options you can have with adoptions. You can either have an open adoption or closed. If you don't know what they are a open adoption is when you can see your child whenevery you want and you can send him/her cards and presents. A closed adoption is when you can not see your child until he/she is 18 years old and only if they want to. Just whatever you do don't pick anything until you have went over all of your options fully! good luck!
2006-11-13 10:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your choice! You need to think about all your options. There may be a counseling center in your town where you can go talk with someone and sort it out. It is very confusing and difficult to be pregnant at 17. I had my first child at 18, and I quit college, I got pregnant again and had an abortion two years later, and have never gotten over it. The sad thing is, I didn't have all the information. There are a lot of great websites out there if you have no one to talk to. I am now 29, and I love my son more than anything, but my parents pushed me into marriage and that was the wrong choice since now i am divorced, but if you do decide to keep the baby, your family will come around. You may need to look for support elsewhere.
2006-11-13 18:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki T 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look do what you feel is best i had my son when i was sixteen and yeah you have big responsab. but it does not ruin your life once the baby comes they will all come to and they will forget all about you being preg at your age. When i was preg i never once thought of abortion because i think if you are willing to open your legs and do what you did you are old enough to take care of a baby i am nineteen right now and my life is great i am married to the father of my 2 year old but like i said don't listen to what they say follow what you feel but it is not the babies fault don't punish it for what happened. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
2006-11-13 22:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by lovinDIJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's rough. i was a 19 yr old mother and it's tough to do it alone trust me i did it. I've gone down both paths abortion and baby, both are difficult. i can't tell you what to do but should you have the baby there may be teen groups that can help you a little. there are people that can counsel you through an abortion too. make a choice that YOU can live with because YOU have to go through it. it's hard but you'll be okay :) and don't listen to the bible thumpers they are insane with the anti-abortion stuff. remember to form your own opinions.
FYI I'm 9 weeks pregnant and had the same worries I'm just older now and i have a 8 yr old
2006-11-13 18:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by nelly78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know... Do you think you're mature enough to be a parent? I don't think you should abort. It would be like killing a person, not letting them grow up.. I couldn't live with that. I would have the baby and put her or him up for adoption.. Or if you think you can handle being a parent keep him or her. If you're in your grade 12 year so you will be out of school when you have you baby. But if you have no support from your parents what would it be like raising a child. I would have the baby and put up for adoption.
Good luck!
Karina
2006-11-13 18:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not buy into what everyone is saying. If you do not believe in abortion (and I, personally, feel that it is unacceptable), then do not do this just because other people are trying to influence you. Your boyfriend is being a jerk and acting childish; if he wasn't ready for a child, then he shouldn't have been having sex. As for the mothers, I think that they need to worry about YOU and especially this baby. They need to put what they think and what they feel aside and quit being selfish.
If you do decide that you want this baby, just know that while it is hard and life-chaning, it is possible. I had my daughter at 18 years old. She is now five, and it was years and years of struggling. But it is doable. If you feel like you don't want to me a mother to this child or that you can not, please please please consider adoption. There are many wonderful, loving couples unable to have their own children who would give this child a home.
2006-11-13 18:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is your decision what you want to do because it is your body. Not your mom's, not your boyfriend's moms, and not your boyfriends. You need to consider other options besides abortion. Every baby derserves a chance. The baby is the innocent one in the situation, and it had no control over it's creation. If you can't do the time, don't do the crime. DO WHAT U WANT TO DO.
2006-11-13 19:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Me_Myself_&_I 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people look at abortion many different ways. No matter what it is murder! By the time you find out that you are pregnant the baby has already started developing. Don't let anyone talk you into doing something that you do not want to do. You have 2 live your life, not anyone else. So what if you don't have their support, you will have your baby. Your bf does not want 2 step up 2 the plate and take care of what is his. Do what is in your heart. God Bless.
2006-11-13 18:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by ♡chele♡ 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but you should abort. Having a baby now will make your ruin your life. If you aren't willing to abort, then put it up for adoption. You will be hurting both you and your child if you try to take care of it yourself.
2006-11-13 19:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they have the right to their opinions and feelings. but so do you.you need to follow what your heart is telling you to do. if you want to keep this baby, then you need to show them that this is what you want. if i were you i would look up information about abortions, either by books or on the Internet, read the pros and cons of having an abortion. then sit down with them all show them what you have found in your research, then talk. but in the end you know the final decision is yours.
2006-11-13 18:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋