Im having a break from my partner after alot of stressful events. Ive just had major surgery 5 months ago and it was a tremendous strain for us both. We have decided to have time out from one another as we are both still stressed and its causing arguments. How long a time limit would you set for this break. There is no one else involved on either side.
2006-11-13 10:06:07 · 16 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
serious answers please as this is a serious situation. Thanks xx
2006-11-13 10:07:38 · update #1
That depends on you 2 and what you plan on doing during your time out. Are you guys gonna to see other people during this time. Is it just a time out from sex? Are you seeking counseling? People use the time out option all the time but think that by just being away from each other things will get better. NOT. Obviously there is a problem and if the problem is not addressed it will be there when you return. If its just stress maybe you both should find things that relieve your stress, like working out, hobbies, etc. Don't force yourself on each other but take some action.
Anyone can say a month, 2 or 3 but you guys should set a reasonable time you think is good. Me personally, would only go for a month at the most. If you are just trying to build that missing each other feeling it may take even less time, but do something productive that will help your relationship during this time away. Not just be glad to be away from the other person.
2006-11-13 10:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
It's really hard to say isn't it?
However, why not just keep in touch, maybe have lunch every now and then? That way, you know you're only gonna be in each other's company for an hour or so. Don't try and resolve any issues during these times - use it as a 'getting to know each other' exercise.
Remember, it's YOUR life - you take control. Don't be forced into returning to the relationship too soon.
I hope that you soon enjoy a full recovery from your surgery.
Very best of luck.
2006-11-13 10:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carolina, I am sorry to here about that. Take as much time as you feel you need. When something major happens to either party it does put a strain on a relationship because it is not something that we expect to happen. So until the other partner can understand what you are going through and vice versa you should take care of yourself.
2006-11-13 10:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by b_a_b_s_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a decision that you both need to make together. What do you think you'd be comfortable with? A week? A month?
If you're both unable to comfort each other during times of stress, perhaps that's a clear indication that you dont belong together at all.
Do you both feel better apart?....or together?
2006-11-13 10:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start courting like you did at the start, have fun together, if you intend to get back together I would not stay away for too long. Talk, talk, talk, and talk some more and listen to what they have to say. If there is love between you everything should work out fine in the end. Good luck.
2006-11-13 10:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi really sorry to hear about your problems,but have you tried running the idea of counselling past him as many temp split ups might not have anyone else involved but it may not take long before there is. and then its all over .
marriage is for better or worse .through sickness and through health, i you love each other and want it to work then a society like relate is a good way to start.
good luck
god bless you
2006-11-13 22:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by PETER J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine wanting to be away from my wife. A SHORT separate vacation I could handle I suppose, but only because we don't share every interest. But, we didn't marry to be away from each other. It seems like a bad idea to me. For us, marriage means sharing both the good times, and the bad.
2006-11-13 10:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in a seperation right now and not reallly sure but in my own situation im giving it 6 months max. i think you'll know after a month or two if your making progress. dont give up but also look at the situation realisticly, you'll know.
good luck and i wish you the best.
2006-11-13 10:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by idoj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental C deserves his/her name. Mental answer. Btw, the longest break i can imagine is 3 months, if not 1 month. if not give it 6 months. If it doesnt blows over, get it over with; you're not meant to be. Sorry huney. Good luck. :s
2006-11-13 10:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no more than a month, and even then you should plan to meet/talk regularly. Absence doesn't always make the heart grow fonder and you could begin to grow apart.
2006-11-13 17:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by trixi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋