Help! Trying to get pregnant for 6yrs.?

Question

I have been diagnosed with pcos - Had surgery , taken clomid, and other methods, no luck.

Answer 1

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.

Answer 2

Oh huni, I'm so sorry, sometimes these things just don't happen the way we would want them too. You've been through a lot huni, maybe now is the time for you to think weather you feel you and your partner can take much more. By all means, go back to your doctor and see what else can be done for you, however, there are plenty other alternatives, there's surrogacy, adoption and I'm sure tonnes more, I mean, I'm only 16 but i do know that you don't have just one bracket choice. I'm so sorry for you huni and I'll be praying that all works out for you.
All the luck

Answer 3

I highly recommend going to www.ivillage.com and visiting their PCOS message board. You can ask all your PCOS questions. I would recommend trying an insulin sensitizing drug, such as metformin. You should probably be on a dose of 1500-2500mg per day. Talk to a reproductive endocrinologist about metformin. Good luck.

Answer 4

I have the same thing and I have just statred to try. The more u take clomid the less effective it gets. Sorry Good luck

Answer 5

stress will put a halt to trying to conceive, and with the issues you have, do not give up hope. It can and most possibly will when you least expect it. I had a friend with a similar problem as you, after 10 long years, they adopted, giving up all hope on getting pregnant, when the newly adopted baby was 3 months old..SURPRISE!! she got pregnant and had a very healthy baby boy.

Answer 6

I am sorry this I am sure is hard for you My mom waited 10 yrs after marriage for my brother ( she got married at 16 )
I will think of you . How she ended up gettting there is she stopped caring .And one night she went and partied and got drunk
nest think you know she was pregnant:)
good luck and fairy dust

Answer 7

Adopt. There are hundreds of children in this country waiting for a family to love them.

Answer 8

Try talking with a fertility specialist

Answer 9

Look into adoption?

Answer 10

You should adopt