Well i've been friends with this boy since last year and we have been pretty good friends since. I kinda like him but recently we had a problem,or more specifically HE had a problem with ME.Well since then he's been treating me like crap,but now he's been getting better..but our relationship was never like it was before..We used to be pretty good friends, he would even text message me at times,and IM me when i'm online. But not now.. And what hurts is that i still like him.. I need advice..How to be normal friends with him again? if i dont be friends with him i'd never have a chance wit him..
2006-11-13 09:58:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know but I am guessing that you are only about 14yrs old or so because of you having to ask about boy problems.
My advise to you is to just forget about this kid if he wants to be standoffish. There are plenty of others out there that would be more worthwhile.
I know that to you this is a HUGE problem, but I assure you that it is only a problem because you make it so. You are way too young for this to be a real problem at all. But you can't see past the hurt you feel inside to understand. Don't worry, one day in the not so far off future you will meet someone else that will make all this seem funny!
Above all remember that boys and girls can only be friends until puberty, after that it's either your lovers or you aren't. Men and women can't be "friends" in the sence that friends are someone that you can talk about being attracted to someone other than them without it hurting one or the other.
Let's say that this boy is really a "friend", and he started talking to you about this other girl that he is attracted to, how would that make you feel? If you were really "friends" then it shouldn't bother you anymore than one of your girlfriends would if she talked to you about some other guy that she is attracted to. See what I mean?
We can have many relationships with each other such as a co-workers, business associates, Mother/Daughter, cousins, etc. these are all relatioinships we can have with people of any sex. But when love or "like" comes into play things change. thus I say and whole heartedly believe that men and women, boys and girls can't be "friends" after puberty without someone feeling jealous or hurt eventually.
Either he is your boyfriend or he is not! Don't let your feelings overpower your common sence.
Dump him, move on, and don't look back. If it is really ment to be then it will be. You can't push it anymore than a boy you don't like can make you like him back.
You can't control the actions of others, only the actions you do.
Another important thing is that
2006-11-13 10:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your obviously very young. Just tell him you'll be his friend when he needs one. Just be your own friend for awhile, like until your in your late 20's or something like that. This boy is exactly what you have called him "a boy". When your in your 20's hopefully you'll meet a "man".
2006-11-13 18:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bob P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's being an as shole then you should just wait it out and see if he chills later. maybe he just needs space. maybe you can be friends again, but try to talk to him about it and tell him he's hurting you. talk to your friends about it: they can see the problem from a distance and see what is REALLY happening.
2006-11-13 18:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by anabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a fan of get it out in the open where we can deal with it. Just go to him and say "we used to get along so well and after our little tiff, I don't think you are being as nice to me, can we please work this out?" And listen to what he says. Good luck!
2006-11-13 18:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant turn back the clock. Take it as it is. Time will tell .
2006-11-13 18:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should act ur self around him if hes still ur friend he shouldnt b acting this way
2006-11-13 18:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by hey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋