What if you're a woman and more aggressive about life in general than your husband is and you find that staying at home and him working - is not working out financially. Do you put the relationship and the man's ego at risk by just taking control of the situation and going out and getting a job or do you sit and wait for the man to do something? Do you go out and make things happen so that you can be responsible for your kids and make sure they are well provided for? How long do you wait for husband to do something before you've had enough? Should the woman just be patient and wait - believing that husband will be able to increase income and do better in the present situation - since that's what he wants to do - will the woman be hurting the man more and the family by just taking charge?
2006-11-13 09:53:43 · 7 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, Where is the communication in this relationship? This is something that both of you should be talking to each other about, negotiating and then carrying out your agreed upon decision. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Try it, you might be surprised at the results. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 09:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to renegotiate your agreements with your husband. When it comes to these responsibility's there are no "feelings" that will pay for the roof over your head, the warm air that keeps you warm and well in a winter and the food on the table. If you are the more capable one of bring home what is needed then maybe you should negotiate he stay home while you work. A real man will for sure be oh, hell no. I am capable of bring home the bacon and he will do just that without having you worry, a male who is trying to pretend he is a real man will wine and stomp his feet that he is the man for the job. But never step up to the plate and just make it happen. Do what you need to do to have the finances handled and not be a concern and stress.
2006-11-13 18:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Buckey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go out and at least find a part time job. Not only to increase the family income but also for a bit of peace of mind. The pride of making your own income and not relying on someone else to make it for you.
Go out and find a job, even just a little job.
I wouldnt mention to husband that it is because his income isnt enough..I would tell him that it is because you would like the distraction of working ( away from children for a bit ) and the bit of extra pay that could come in handy to save for a new washer and dryer, or a vacation..that kind of thing.
Myself personaly I had been the "bread winner" of the family for years. I supported myself independantly for awhile as well. As much as I would like to I cannot do with out making my own money even if it isnt much I need the security and independance of having my own pay. Its not my style to ask if I can have $40 to go out with the girls or what ever.
I am an independant woman and I cannot rely on anyone but myself...even though I have a partner who does help out financially I still have to have my own money or I cant sleep at night.
2006-11-13 18:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be talking to your husband about this. You need to tell him you can't sit in the house and 'do nothing'. Maybe to make him at ease, say it is more of your natural instincts and you can't stay still. Surely he'll understand. I'm not married, but that's what I plan to do if I get married. hehehe... I just dont think a guy, ego or not, should decide on how you lead your life.
2006-11-13 18:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk to your husband, and tell him how you feel, I would emphasize the desire to add to the family income. as well the children will be well looked after, in other words do not belittle,him rather make it come across as your totally supporting his goals and this might make it happen faster
2006-11-13 18:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell no girl stop worrying about his ego, that damn ego don't pay bills!!! If you want things taken care of you have got to do it yourself...
2006-11-13 17:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just tell him you want to work as well...why make it about him not providing? there can be two providers in a relationship...
2006-11-13 17:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by superstorrs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋