My 12 year old daughter is being taunted and ridiculed by another girl and her friends on the bus. She finally punched the girl a few weeks ago and it stopped temporarily. However, now she's got her mother thinking that my child has been bullying hers. The kid has the wool pulled over the mother's eyes big time and I don't expect her to lay off my child. What can we do to combat the problem? The school is essentially of no help and seems to have made matters worse for my girl. What causes this child to want to make fun of my daughter and hit her, touch her backpack, punch the bus seat she's in, call her names, etc.? This kid is actually smaller than mine. I don't get it. She's going to file assault charges if she hits her again. What can we do to permanently stop this bunch of bull****?
2006-11-13 09:49:08 · 7 answers · asked by Stevie 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
My daughter is a petite, pretty little girl who wears glasses. She is not nerdy, etc., but these girls are making her to beleive that she is.
2006-11-13 09:50:17 · update #1
Would take it to the school Principal, nothing accomplished there , then take it to the Superintendent!
2006-11-13 09:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by SWM 38 _4_ YOUNG GF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is an idea, get a hidden camera and microphone on and for your daughter and get everything recorded and if they do sue or press charges against your daughter and tell your daughter not to hit the girls and just walk away with the other kids when they all kids leave school. You can present it to the court of law and the principle or school board about it with proof of bullying. See, where I live it is illegal to bully anyone, anywhere regardless of age. If someone does it, they get charged under the by-law for bullying. They can be either reprimanded or expelled and fined or jail time. And that would embarrass the bully's parents really bad and the bully/bullies will be in some much trouble she/they will regret it.
2006-11-13 18:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I was in sixth grade. The teachers did nothing. The principal did nothing. This girl even managed to get her friends to join in. My mother went to school one day and said "she is so pretty, but she acts so UGLY" she heard that and ran out of the building after me and my mom. For the first time in her life, she was silent. That worked for a little while, but I just has to push myself through it. Tell your daughter to put head phones in, or tell them something about growing up. Usually the reason is picking on someone else is because they are having problems at home. Make sure your daughter gets a lot of love and attention at home. If she doesnt react, they will go away. If you can, try and get an older girl to sit on the bus with her, and if the situation comes up, have the older girl say something. The best of luck for you and your daughter.
2006-11-16 12:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Steph M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stick up for your daughter. Go to the school and tell the administrator what is going on. Threaten to pull your daughter out of school if something is not done about it, and do it if nothing is done. I don't care what anybody says, indirect bullying is just as harmful if not more so than direct bullying. If you can get the other parents involved all the better. There are many reasons for girls to bully; makes them feel more powerful, pretty, popular, whatever her motivation, your daughter can't be the target. The other girl needs counseling and so does your daughter after this. She can't go through life with these scars. I did and I am 36 years old now and still dealing with issues that bully's in school put on me.
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2006-11-13 18:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by mati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew the answer. I teach 6th grade, and the girls are so awful to each other.
The truth is that bullying comes from insecurity. Kids feel better about themselves by making other kids feel bad. They also think it makes them cool. If a child, deep down inside, thinks she can't win friends and be popular based on her personality, she will pick on someone else to impress everyone. I see it all the time.
Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about it. I would suggest that your daughter try to make friends with other kids in the class, so she has support. Maybe she can even befriend some of the girls in the bully's clique. If they like her, they won't tolerate their friend bullying her anymore. Or at least they won't cheer it on. And that's all the bully wants: attention.
Other than that, all she can do is to ignore the bullying and hope that it stops, or else fight back. Neither one is a good solution. Just remind her that this is temporary, and almost everyone goes through it at some point in life.
2006-11-13 17:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by dark_phoenix 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people only think boys bully each other, but IMO what girls do in grade school is worse. Physical wounds like bruises heal, but emotional ones might not heal for a long time. Girls like to ridicule a girl until they have no self-esteem left whatsoever. It makes them feel better about them selves and they feel as if it gets them more friends and makes them cool. If i were you, id take it to the principal or superintendent, they usually take that stuff pretty seriously.
2006-11-13 18:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-13 17:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by lola here 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋