My friend was raped and became pregnant. She is claiming this was by the rape, but I believe otherwise.?

Question

My friend was raped a couple of months ago. It was very traumatic for her. A week and a half later she slept with her bf of one month and then they broke up. The day she slept with her bf she told me and said they did not use protection. Now that she found out she is pregnant (she is keeping the baby) She is telling everyone that it is from the rape. I doubted that at first, but she went to the dr for her first check-up and told me her due date. I entered that on several pregnancy websites and calculated the conception date to be the day she slept with the bf. My question is do I just keep my mouth shut when she tells people she is pregnant from the rape. I know it is not my place to tell anyone otherwise, but does anyone think the guy (the ex bf) has a right to know about the baby. I think her mom is pressuring her to say it is from the rape so that no man will be involved in the baby's life. Also I think she is milking this to get attention. Lying about the baby's dad wont help.

Answer 1

i think u have answered ur own question here for the most part, whether or not the bf needs to know is really not ur business to be honest. i'm not sure how u would know who she was pregnant by since it happened so close together and u didn't mention u were a doctor or had any expertise in the area other than using a pregnacy website. i think ur best bet is to support her and be there for her and let her make her own decisions if ur still interested in being her friend. that's what friends are for right? even if she isn't telling the whole truth, how can u expect her too be "together" right after something so tramatic has happened?Good Luck to ur friend;)

Answer 2

You should talk to your friend first and then tell the bf. If you after talking to her still believe is the bf and not from the rape then tell him. But the most important thing is that you should clear thinks up with your friend because how can you be sure she is lying heck how can your friend know too. But why would she want to make people believe is from the rape which a lot worse than from a boyfriend. Help her get through the pregnancy and there is a reason she needs attention maybe she feels lonely and is really traumatized because of the rape.

Answer 3

I was raped by a boyfriend at the time and I still kept my child she is 12 and a beautiful little girl. It isn't odd to keep a child from a rape I know lots of people that have done it that child didn't do anything wrong. If she is saying it is from the rape then just believe her it is hard to admit to people that it is like that. Just keep your mouth shut and if she isn't pregnant by the rape then the bf will wise up and ask for a paternity test.

Answer 4

Why would she lie? Is the bf a real stinker that should not be in her life or her baby's life. I do not know why she would want people to believe the child is from rape because of the fact that a lot of people will look down on this child and watch it very close because they believe that violence is passed down from father and mother to child. I am sure that someone will tell the ex bf that she is pregnant and if he is interested, he can have a DNA test done. I am sure she has her reasons and since you do not know why she would rather think her baby's father is a raptist instead of her ex bf, I would keep my mouth shut.

Answer 5

Sam's first paragraph is just wrong: how does she know how everybodt react?

Anyway, if what you say is true, then she has a problem. She should see a counsellor. Maybe talk to her. Tell her that you think that the baby is from her ex-boyfriend.

She might want the attention because people might think she is very brave if she is keeping the baby which was conceived not by love but by a rape (I'd think that's just dumb, but that's just my opinion).

Anyway. Your friend has a problem. It seems she hasn't coped with the rape yet.

Answer 6

I have a hard time believing it was that traumatic or possibly even a rape if she was willing to have sex so soon after being raped. Most girls I know who have been raped were afraid of having guys touch them AT ALL after the rape.

It is your word against hers. People will believe her more than you, and you will probably gain some enemies if you go around contradicting her. It seems that this person isn't someone you have a great deal of respect for, anyway, so maybe you should just quietly and gently end the friendship and move on.

Answer 7

if shes "keeping the baby" it sounds like it wasnt from the rape....why would anyone want to keep something from somebody that RAPED THEM? even if it is a child...i know im anti-abortion myself...but think about it...if she was really raped & really thinks it was from the guy who raped her...why would she want to keep that persons baby who took advantage of her...i dont think that makes sense at all...& you may be right...because i dont think anyone would jump in bed with somebody right after having been raped...sounds a little far fetched to me...but honestly you should just stay out of it & let her do what she does...let her believe what she believes..its better that way she might be telling the truth who knows for sure??...just leave it alone...hopefully either way she will come out & tell the truth

Answer 8

i think of the act of rape is reprehensible, God can not stop evil, your question 'who believes God can..." i've got self assurance the act of concept is under the administration of God, I don;t be attentive to if He does ward off concept, has accomplished it in the previous, or perhaps could opt to attain this. The individual with the aid of fact of a concept from a rape is not any much less significant than the different individual conceived. I have not have been given any thought why God enables rape, that undesirable violation, yet He does not disallow the consequent individual fullyyt in step with its approach of concept. Miscarriages take place for dissimilar motives, consistent with possibility it is His approach of combating beginning. Fetuses are often spontaneously aborted for organic and organic, physiological motives. those could desire to be the consequent products of concept God enables to not attain beginning. Who somewhat knows what number raps do or do not effect in concept or hardening of the egg. God could desire to harden the egg, yet merely He could be attentive to why that would ensue.

Answer 9

Hate to sound harsh, but I think you are being a terrible friend by not supporting her, I'd be pissed if someone was second guessing me after I was raped. Ask her to seek some counseling/therapy. To say she is milking this to get attention is horrible, imagine if the same thing happened to you and she said that about you.

Answer 10

Hun, I would let sleeping dogs lay, It is her stuff to deal with. Wether she was raped or not, baby is the ex's or not she needs a friend, not a judge. The due date is NOT an exact science. It is estimated Date of arrival. I hope your friend has a friend in you.