My baby is a month and 2 weeks. Everytime I lay her down she screams and crys everybody says she's spoiled and just wants my arms. if so how do i break it out of her?
(she's just a baby....: (
2006-11-13 09:32:16 · 25 answers · asked by luuvabear 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No way, you can't spoil a baby. All she craves right now is being cuddled in your arms. Just hold her as much as humanly possible and get one of those cuddly papisan swings for when you have to put her down. Don't worry, this doesn't last long...my baby is 9 months old and I really miss when he wanted me to hold him all the time, instead of squirming away to crawl around and play with his toys now.
2006-11-13 09:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by hollym101 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Fruit spoils, not babies! By holding your baby and responding to her cries you teach her that she can trust you and trust this new and strange world she had just recently come into. Dr. Sears (askdrsears.com) says that a baby's wants and needs are the same during the early months. Even the research confirms that comforting your baby when she cries is the best thing to do: "Researchers Drs. Bell and Ainsworth at John Hopkins University studied two sets of parents and their children. Group A were attachment-parented babies. These babies were securely attached, the products of responsive parenting. Group B babies were parented n a more restrained way, with a set schedule and given a less intuitive and nurturing response to their cues. All these babies were tracked for at least a year. Which group do you think eventually turned out to be the most independent? Group A, the securely attached babies. Researchers who have studied the affects of parenting styles on children's later outcome have concluded, to put it simply, that the spoiling theory is utter nonsense." Hope that helps!
2006-11-13 10:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyone will try and raise your baby. But your her mom. Make sure shes fed, changed and free from gas. Go from holding her, to laying her next to you, to laying a bit farther away. Over a few days increase the amount of time and how far- walking away would be the last step. You cant spoil a newborn. They were inside you for 9 months so theyre use to the closeness. Use your motherly instinct, not what everyone says.
2006-11-13 09:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cyber Bullying Is Ugly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no breaking a one month of wanting to be loved. She cannot possibly be spoiled. Whoever is telling you this is misinformed. Your child needs love and comfort from you all the time at this age. They don't know any other way of communication besides crying right now. Hold her .....and if you can't it will not hurt her to let her cry a bit while you get dinner started, put laundry in , or vacuum.
Hope this helped. Good luck...this shall pass!
2006-11-13 09:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a toddler einstein play mat i began my son making use of it whilst he became into 3 weeks..it keeps him entertained and inspired. We certainly have a swing that my son sits in and watched toddler einstein video clips...additionally all of us started him gazing the musical video clips at 3 weeks. He additionally has a bouncer seat...he on no account somewhat enjoyed it in the beginning up yet now he will take a seat in it and play. It has a recline place so he isn't slidding out of it. Giving him issues to snatch at or at 3 months "wack at" is what he's attracted to. colourful and MUSICAL products! Now that he's 5 months we've been given him an evenflow exersaucer or perhaps although he cant take a seat up i merely placed a gentle fluffy blanket around him in the seat and it stablizes him...the container says you need to use it at 4 months. I stay at residing house all day besides and with out those issues I couldnt ever get a concern accomplished. I pass him from toy to toy to maintain him happy! additionally a walk outdoors in the Stroller will placed lil guy suitable TO SLEEP! AND Tummy Time would be relaxing for him placed be certain you watch him and in the beggining merely a couple of minutes some circumstances an afternoon is all he will prefer.
2016-10-17 05:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by chowning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not spoiled and you don't need to break her of anything! A 6 week old baby DOES NOT cry to manipulate you....she crys to communicate with you! Holding her is GOOD for her. This helps her feel safe and secure, helps you bond and helps her grow! Hold her as much as you want....it's the right thing to do!
2006-11-13 10:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Don't listen. You guys have got to get to know each other and the best way is to spend loads of time together....once you've got over a bit of the excitement then routines and everything else will be worked out, at that stage you'll know what she wants, when and how (ie feeds, sleeps, baths) but give yourself a break and enjoy Mummyhood. Anyone who says any different either can't remember having a baby, hasn't got their yet or is just plain jealous of what special thing you have. Enjoy every minute.
2006-11-13 09:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by aza 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
OH YEAH!!!!! I was the main one saying I'm not gonna spoil my son but in a way you cant help it there so beautiful plus my son was a preemie so at first you just want to nurture but now he's a little rug rat full of energy. But yeah it happens. Sometimes too just to get things done around the house you have to just put her down and let her quiet herself. As long as she is clean,fed, nice and warm she's OK she is gonna work it put when she realized your not playing into the game shell just go on to sleep PATIENCE MY FRIEND good luck!!! Slings/swings are +
2006-11-13 09:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not spoil a baby under the age of one.
2006-11-13 11:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by __Geri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? If your baby wants to be close to you and be held by her mommy their is nothing wrong with that. Before you know she'll be crawling and walking and then she wont want you to hold her anymore. They grow way to fast. Enjoy her now.
I also want to add about the letting her cry it out thing. I disagree with that 100%. Right now is the only way your baby can communicate with you. When you dont respond how is that showing her love, it shows her that when she needs you that you'll ignore her. She needs that security and comfort
2006-11-13 09:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋