Heres the problem my daughter has some mental and physical problems and we had her a assesment done to see what is wrong with her and we find out the results tommorrow. My husband and I want to have another baby, but I am worried that when I go the doctors tommorrow they are going to tell me that it is genetic. I am really concerned about this because I dont want to have another baby if it is genetic so I dont know what to do can someone please give me a little advice and some ideas on what to do. Thanks so much.
2006-11-13 09:08:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all stop stressing. That wont help a bit. Then second of all find out who's side it comes from (if it is genetic). If it is his side find out how it runs (IE whole family carries or just him). Then if it is only him I will let you borrow my hubby for a good time and sperm donation. I live in Utah so if you live close by then it would work. If it is your side then we could look into an egg donation and I would help you out with that. Although you would have to carry it since I get too sick while pregnant. Let me know what you think and what you find out tomorrow. mle32005@yahoo.com
2006-11-13 09:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, wait and see what the doctor says. Like it has already been said, you need to find out if it is genetic, and which side of the family it comes from.
Maybe it was only your daughter that will be affected. I know of one family where in birth order: the son was ok, the daughter had physical and mental disabilities, then twin daughters were ok. It might have been a one off abnormality that won't be present in any of your other children. I have seen the same in other families. They have a number of kids, but one has down syndrome and the rest are fine. Another family I know of: the first two kids were fine, but the third hasn't developed mentally properly (ie mind like a child). That child has some kind of genetic defect as well - not down syndrome, but there is another one where all people with this have similiar faces. An another family I know of - the first child has a mental disorder (mind like a child but looks "normal") but the second and third children are OK.
So you never know. Talk to the doctor. If you are still really stressed after you decide to get pregnant, there are a number of tests that can be done when you are at approx 8-10 weeks to test for genetic and other defects. Have those tests done, and then discuss with your husband what you will do if those tests come up positive (before you get pregnant).
2006-11-13 17:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Carrie -- even if what your daughter has is genetic, that doesn't gauruntee that your next child will have the same condition. Of course, it all depends on your unique situation, but I think you should wait and find out what the doctor has to say. Once you know for sure you should discuss it with your husband...and maybe look into genetic counselling before you decide to TTC #2.
2006-11-13 17:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by ezza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck for tomorrow
as for the other baby I don't know what to tell you
I have about 4 friends that have children with dissabilities
it is not easy one of them have two
and another one have one the oldest but still was able to have
3 othe children that is just fine (in her case is was genetic because I was married to her cousin and almost all their family member have an handicap child we were lucky it skip us)
one friend have one but everytime she get preg she aborted the baby because she is afraid
I can only pray for you that what ever the doc say you will have the courage to hang on & don't despere
Again
Goodluck
2006-11-13 17:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, God won't give you more than you can handle. I have two children and my oldest (6yrs) is diabetic (genetic) and I knew there was a chance of diabetes in my second, but I had no thoughts of not having another child. What you have to remember is that you aren't in control of all of that, only God is and if you have faith in Him, you will have as many or as few healthy children as He wants you to have. I have a friend who had a horrific first pregnancy, they told her her son wouldn't be of sound mind, that he would have learning difficulties etc. Today, he is 7 years old and excelling better than many other "healthy" children. You never know what's in store, just have faith.
2006-11-13 17:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Jackson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's this thing called Genetic counseling. It will evaluate the odds that you and your partner have of creating a child with a specific birth defect. It does cost money, but probably not as much as you think. I'm sure your doctor would recommend it, and they will help you weigh your odds and evaluate options.
2006-11-13 17:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Beck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
abopt a baby.... millions of poor kids that dont have homes.
2006-11-13 17:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by vomit heart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋