Would you allow your son/daughter date/marry someone from a different race than yours?

Question

In this day and age why is race hating more prevalent than before? Would you allow yourself or your child to date or marry someone from another race? Please give good feedback as to why you would or wouldn't.

Thank you.

Answer 1

My children are adults and I don't tell them what to do. Two of them are married and one is single. They married within their race and none of my children have dated outside their race. So, I don't have any actual experience in dealing with this.

I believe this is a personal choice, and everyone is entitled to make their own decisions. It's not up to me to decide what's right for someone else.

However, as far as our children are concerned, neither my husband nor myself would be happy if they dated "outside" their race. I know my parents would have never accepted it.

I don't think you're a "racist" because you don't want your children to date "outside" their race. I believe most people are more "comfortable" within their own race (whatever that may be) and I don't think anyone needs to "apologize" for feeling that way.

I am white and my family is Irish. My husband is Italian and his parents are from Sicily. Although he is the same "race" as I am, the cultural differences between our families are huge. We have dealt with many "issues" over the past 35 years. Issues that I don't believe we would have been dealing with if we were from the same economic and ethnic background.

I'm not saying that inter-racial marriages can't work, obviously they can. I think It depends on the people involved and their ability to work through their differences.

I try to treat everyone the way I would like to be treated. If someone is nice to me I'm nice to them. If someone is mean, then I don't want anything to do with them. My like or dislike for anyone is based on their actions, not their race.

I hope this helps you a bit, it's only my opinion and I hope I don't "offend" anyone with it.

Answer 2

There are so many different races and cultures in our country that it's ludicrous to think everyone will 'keep to their own'. About 50 yrs. ago, if an interracial couple married, they would definitely have a difficult time being accepted, as would their kids as they wouldn't feel comfortable in either 'community', not knowing where they belonged. Nowadays, I'd truly like to think we have grown to accept all nationalities and can 'blend' accordingly if we fall in love. However, I do realize some parents do not want their children marrying outside their race. If the 'kids' are 3rd generation Americans or Canadians and have been integrated all their lives, it would be very difficult for them to have to adhere to 'tradition' if they fall in love with someone with whom their parents would not approve. In these days of enlightenment, if they have to marry a person chosen by their parents, they could rebel causing problems within the family. A horrible outcome of that is spousal abuse and, in our area of the country, three murders with one husband arrested and 2 more considered suspects.

This is rather a long-winded way of saying "Yes, I truly do believe we should let our children marry the person they love, no matter what race." I was tested with that statement when my white son came home with a black girlfriend. I was definitely surprised but, after the initial shock, found her to be a lovely young woman. The relationship didn't last though.

Answer 3

I have to disagree about race hating being more prevalent but society excepting the fact that race mixing is the next generation. Show me one race that hasn't started mixing, the color of ones skin does not represent who that individual is as a person. Love is blind, your mind is what opens your eyes when you can close your mind to color you will see nothing but a persons body mind and soul. I have dated outside my race for a long time and can say this in all relationships no matter what color or genders your dealing with we all have the same issues with in the relationship. I would allow my daughter/son to marry who ever they wanted as long as they're happiness came first.

Answer 4

Personally i would, race dosnt have anything to do with love. the only thing that truly matters is if your child is happy and there partner treats them well., so yeah i would allow my son/ daughter to date someone of a different race

Answer 5

I don't have kids, but I know how I would feel if I did have kids and also my mom's opinion. I think that it should not matter a person's race so long as they are genuinely a good person, want the best for their significant other, and don't want to try to change whomever they are with. It should be a matter of love, respect, honesty, and trust rather than what they look like.

Answer 6

well i think that most of the "race hating" is done by mostly now the people who were hated on before. Anyways i would not frown on anyone dating or marrying someone from a different race just as long as they have a connection, love and have the same view points as the other person. :)

Answer 7

I don't think it's worse now than it was before, and I'm 45. I can't honestly say that I would have been jumping for joy if my daughter had fallen in love with a man from another race - but not because of him - but because of all the extra difficulties they'd face as a couple. Anyone who won my daughter's love would have, at the very least, my respect and care. :)

Answer 8

I have been faced with this same question, and guess what I did? I gave them my blessing. my daughter married out side her race. you see we are black and he is Spanish.that's the only difference, our culture. God made all of us the same way. 1.name me any race that has children in a different way, we all come out through the birth canal? 2.which race uses a different part of their body to go to the bath room? and 3.which race does not go in the ground after they die? so you see, we are all the same. we may look a little different or even speak different, we might even have different shades of skin, but were all Gods children. I hope that I could help answer your question.

Answer 9

I would allow my child to marry outside of his/her race, as long as he/she was a good person. I have many friends that have married and have children with another race. I think they make beautiful children. I personally would not, only b/c I am happily married already.

Answer 10

I think the parents should be happy as long as their child is happy.

Because the CHILD is the one who is going to marry that person and be with them for the rest of their lives. Not the parents.

And this day and age, it's a lot more common to see interracial relationships. It's only SKIN COLOR. Shouldn't people be more upset about their child marrying druggies or murderers instead??