can we get that trust back? even if it was just a simple flirt?
2006-11-13 08:56:53 · 20 answers · asked by jules 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it was just a rub along my sisters leg and suggestions but she refused so should i kick him to the curb or am i being to drastic??
2006-11-13 09:05:34 · update #1
No your not being to drastic, if he would make a pass at your sister then he will make a pass at anyone. once a cheater always a cheater. and even if he promises to change how can you ever trust him.
2006-11-13 09:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by robert s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I would recommend you get to the point of it all, why was it done to begin with and then base your answer on the disposition as to whether you can trust again, also I might offer a suggestion ,no matter what happens don't get revenge by fighting fire with fire, cheating with cheating or lying with lying, two wrongs never make a right. Good luck, hope you can work things out. and yes we can forgive but it takes two and true sincerity must be there.
2006-11-13 17:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think we ever forget, or forgive, in the back of our mind it is always lurking, if he comes home a little late, if theres an argument the negative memories of our hurt comes flooding back into our minds, the innocence of our marriage is gone, the man we trusted, and thought we knew so well we realiaze we didn't know him very well at all. but it really all depends on his response to the fact it hurt u, if he wants to shove it under the carpet, as if it were something trivial, or if he doesn't want to allow us to talk about our hurt, or he refuses to admit he did wrong, than theres not too much hope, but if he is repentant, and sorry than there could be a chance. depends on if u really want to give him another chance.
2006-11-13 22:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget that it happened. You can forgive, but only if you really want to. It will be a hard thing to do since it was with a family member. There will never be trust where the 2 of them are concerned.
2006-11-13 17:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by mistkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - if you need to be able to trust and rely on someone totally then this liar/cheat ain't gonna be what you need. Problem is, you'll be hard pushed to find ANY male who will meet your needs (I can only talk for males as I am one) - we are very shallow and driven by sex. And before any other males say 'no way', I have 50 years of talking man talk with other men and I am ashamed to say I've never met anyone who is totally clean thinking and reliable. Sorry guys, but own up!
2006-11-13 17:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by stephen505040 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always forgive it is the question can you ever forget, we would like to believe that everyone changes. If you can say that people change then yes it can happen for you if you can walk away from the situation and not look back then walk away. I would assume the heart always speaks louder then your head maybe just this one time listen to your mind, your heart might miss lead you and if you want to take the chance of getting back always keep the things that look funny in front of you so that your not standing there looking like boo boo the clown.
2006-11-13 17:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that i could never forgive... or better yet forget about a cheat or a liar. it would eat me up inside until i got rid of them... and i actually can admit from experience that my daughters father cheated on me and even after we were broken up and i moved on to another relationship with my husband, i still dealt with the pain and hurt that his cheating on me caused. i think it is the ultimate of all insults, and unlike murder or death caused by murder... you have to live with the emotions for the rest of your life.
it totally sucks.
now, on the flirting note... it really depends on who, what, when, where, how, and how often.
2006-11-13 17:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is entitled for forgiveness. If he told you straight of what he did, then he sounds like he feels guilty and ashame of what he did and wants to correct things. If you found out by your sister or someone else,then YEAH - he doesn't deserve you. He might not think anything of it.
2006-11-13 17:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by KS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we" are all different with different beliefs. But speaking for myself, No I couldn't get the trust I once had due to his constant lies... Due to the fact that he flirted or touched her.. The main thing is Why did he do that to begin with? I'm sure he gave you a pathedic excuse now that he was busted! He did that once. What does he do behind your back...when you already seen him with your own eyes...when he thought it was behind your back! Think of it. opps he did it again!... Once he did it he will do it again.
2006-11-13 17:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible to forgive them, but its always in your mind. If you really care for someone you want to be able to say yes I trust you, but sometimes its hard. Before you can gain their trust back you want them to prove to you that they can be true.
2006-11-13 17:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by AG3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋