Is my Bestfriend being a B!+(# or am I ?

Question

My best girlfriend Kendra & I have been kicking it for 4 yrs now. We have alot in common age, look like sisters, both have 4 kids, divorced but our lifestyles are different she is content with her little job, and living in the project while driving her 1996 grand prix. While I filed bankruptcy, bought a house, got my AA degree & working on BA. I just bought my 1st new car a 2007 Altima.

I take my classes online so I can be at home for my kids and for the last 6 mths being seeing an older Man Im very fond of. This past wkend was Kendra & my other friend Maras birthday I explained to both of them I could not hang out this wkend because I had to finish my paper. Mara understood & agreed I stay home & finish while Kendra ramped and raved about what kinda friend I was & why I wited till the last min to do my paper that I had been working on 4 wks and was due Sun. Then she acused me of lying & wanting to screw my BF all wkend. I was applaud not to mention already stressed was I the B!+(#

Actually the week before I went over Kendras how for a house warming/pre B-day patry BBQ, & gave her her gift me and my new BF. I go to the univesity of Phoenix our classes are 5 wks long, I have 1 major paper and powerpoint presentation and another one for my group. However I had taken 2 months off because of personal reasons and stress and failure to concentrate my classes cost $1500 a peice, Im taking this 1st one online which is harder and takes even more discilpline. I called her on the weds b4 her birthday and left a message I would not be able to go to the CLUB on friday, she choose to ignore my call until friday in which I went into detail of my Paper delima & thats when she asked me why I waited the last minute and I advised her I had not but I was in college not elementry my paper was 12 pgs not a 2 page elem paper. I asked her if I could take her out to lunch or dinner being that It wouldnt have taken up my whole night nor resulted in me be tired and hung over she declined.

Answer 1

In this case I can see both sides but you do have the right to be appalled at the way she spoke to you. I can understand why she is upset. You said you had 4 weeks to work on this paper and she says you canceled on her at the last minute. Ok, she should understand that when you have 4 children it is hard to find time to do what needs to be done other that taking care of our motherly duties. SHE should understand if she has 4 kids herself. I understand because I have 4 kids too. You should have let her know ahead of time that there was a chance you might not be able to attend her birthday celebration unless of course you did not know it would come to this. Life does just happen sometimes. I do not think that you are a B****. Your future matters. It matters not only for you but for your children also. I'm proud of you for doing this for yourself and your family but never look down on your friend. (not saying you do) She has a harder time from what it looks like. (I've been there) Does she possibly suffer from depression? What was her childhood like? There may be something holding her back in life and causing her to lash out. ( I had an abusive childhood and have dealt with anger problems. It held me back too) Maybe she has low self esteem. She may have felt betrayed when you told her you weren't coming to her party. She may have anger problems. Chances are she has realized she overreacted by now and she just doesn't have the courage to admit that talking to you like that was wrong. It also sounds like she may be jealous of the time you are spending with your b/f. Maybe she feels he is taking you away from her. It isn't like it can't happen. My best friends b/f finally hit delete on me. Sit down and talk to her. Assure her that there is room for both her and him in your life. She will have to get used to the idea of him because you deserve happiness in life. Maybe he has a friend she would like. I hope this all works out for you and I really pray you don't lose your friendship the way I did. I have spent 3 years missing my best friend but that's life. Take care.

Answer 2

I believe that she was really being a b***h when she accused you of lying because if she was your true friend and like Mara is she would have understood. There's no way in the world you should blame yourself for that because you might be a busy person but your doing good for yourself and what you do in the privacy of your home is your business but that wasn't your intentions you were really trying to finish there paper

Answer 3

I'm going to assume that you are at least 21 if not older RIGHT! This entire story sounds childish. I'm sorry but I don't put allot of energy into friendships maybe it's because I'm married but I don't. There is always a point in friendship where there is a test. Sounds like she tested you and you failed. You did the mature thing asking to take her to lunch or whatever, but she responded childishly. A friendship to me is just like a relationship but different you know. If you dated a man that didn't have as much as you what does he usually treat you like, it's the same thing with girlfriends, one that has less, does less, and thinks less is eventually going to fall out with you. You are their competition and they will get jealous when you aren't available, and when you succeed and they don't! However if you want to rekindle the friendship then deal with her childish ways as long as you can take it, but if it starts being more trouble than it's worth, hey friends are just like men, they are a DIME A DOZEN!

Answer 4

If she is really your friend, she will get over this and apologize. School is important to you, and she knows that. She needs to respect that. She probably was just disappointed that you weren't able to come out, and unfortunatley she took it out on you. She does owe you an apology, but if you don't hear from her....lower your pride, call her, and give her a chance to. Just ask her if she is feeling better, and when you can celebrate with her. See what happens. If she is still mad, explain your point of view, calmly. If she is still nutso, just hang up and try again in a week or so.

Answer 5

You know what if she cannot understand that school comes first then you really dont need her as a friend. I mean you are trying to better yourself and she is content with what she has and has no ambition to do better for herself then to heck with her . She is no friend if she is acting like that. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.

Answer 6

From what you said, in my opinion, this woman isn't a real friend. She is basically just using you and is not dependable. If I was you then I would just kick her azz to the curb and keep your man away from her.

Answer 7

Show him the mail she despatched u ahead it honestly (n inform him to learn the facet wherein it says who despatched it to u within the addresses facet) if u have not stored that mail, then u can simplest look ahead to him to understand how his gf is. or u can preserve seeking to apologise (however that is little need; he will have to realize his gf is a b....) well good fortune!

Answer 8

you have to understand that everyone who said that they are your friend is just your friend as long as your are in the same situation that they are in. Once you began to do better them you began to see who your true friends are.

Answer 9

maybe this is one of those cases where it's not who was one but who was the bigger one...