other peoples kids?

Question

my bfriends m8s come round with there kids i dont mind but they run riot jump on all the bed jump on a white leather settee with their shoes on and run outside and trail mud in all over cream carpets how can i get this to stop without upsettin someone

Answer 1

Talk to your bf its his friends he should say somthing plus im sure the kids parents dont let there kids run riot at theere own homes all kids need ground rules so dont b afraid. Yiou can show that you dont mind the kids being there with postive features like having a few toys there. If they misbehave talk to the parents kids only misbehave when there bored and hyper and when they dont understand what there doing isnt acceptable behavior, if all else fails try and entertain them and tell them off when they do something wrong yourself reward them for good behaviour too shows ur bfs freinds u aint anti children you just dont want ur house wrecked..gud luck

Answer 2

Um, it's your house..it's you that's got to clean it up and your "mate" is not doing you any favours either! Why you're letting their children jump all over your white leather settee with (or without shoes) is beyond me! And trailing in mud from running outside? Why don't you tell them to wipe their feet on a mat by the back door? Ask them to take their shoes off in the house if they are going to run riot. But you should tell your friends, if they take that on board and are understanding, you've just got a load of future cleaning off your mind and if they are offended or rude, then maybe being friends with them was a bad idea. If you can't even tell your friend the truth without the prospect of supposedly "upsetting" them, then maybe you should rethink your friendship, if you cannot confront them. As for your friend, what the hell are they doing having children if they can't even teach them a little respect ??

Answer 3

I know that feeling it makes your blood boil doesnt it when people dont teach their kids to respect other peoples things, I am not very confrontational either but I would say for a start to take their kids shoes off when they come in, at least that will solve the stains on your carpets and if they start jumping on your furniture just say to the parents, look I dont mean to be rude but would you mind if they didnt do that because I cant afford to replace it all if they brake it. Its such a night mare though when you cant speak your mind, one of my friends used to bring her dog round, didnt even ask first, rather than tell her not to I made up some story that my daughter was allergic to dogs, I am a big wimp.

Answer 4

Geez, if my kids did that they know what they'd get!

It's your house and you must lay the law down, otherwise they'll continue to 'trash' your house.

I'd start by making them take their shoes off as soon as they come in.

Nevermind about 'upsettin someone' !!! What about you?!! Is this behaviour not upsetting you? Not to mention all the hard earned cash it takes to make your house a home!

I also think your bf should take some responsibility here.

There, rant over!!!

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Ask your boyf to have a word with his mates, say you're happy to have them round, but they have to take their shoes off.

If he or his mates or the kids object that they need their shoes for outside, just say they can be indoors (without shoes), they can be outdoors (with shoes), but wherever the kids are, those shoes stay outside the door. You could get a big doormat to show you mean business.

And you can point out that the thing on the floor is the doormat - not you !

Answer 6

That is so unfair to you.Speak to your boyfriend and point out the damage and mess and ask him to speak to his mates. He will have to tell them to control their kids and stop them from jumping on your furniture. Ask them to take their shoes off too, it's either play inside or out, not both. And about upsetting anyone, tough they should not have let their kids treat someone elses property in this way, they should show some respect!

Answer 7

Keep the doors closed to other rooms so they are in the same room as the adults. If they jump on the setee, tell them to stop and their parents will probably tell them too. If not, then you will have to ask the parents to stop them doing it.
Would you rather upset someone or have your house ruined? I know what I would choose.

Answer 8

You need to talk to your boyfriend first and foremost as they are his mate's kids. Explain to him that it's making you miserable and you need to have some ground rules - such as taking their shoes off at the door, not climbing on the furniture and generally not disrespecting your home. His mates should by rights control their kids anyway, I'd be mortified if mine behaved like that in someone else's home. Maybe if you get them a game to play or put a channel they like on the TV they'd sit quietly for a while. Get your boyfriend to talk to his mates and establish rules for their kids to abide by whilst in your home. I doubt they'd tolerate them ruining their own homes so why should they be allowed to trash yours? Good luck x x

Answer 9

If this is your home than you tell them. I don't think it should matter if you are upsetting them, they are ruining your home and upsetting you. What does m8s stands for? And since I'm on the subject what does lol means?

But yeah...tell your boyfriend if he does not tell them, than you will.

Answer 10

Ask them to remove their shoes at the door - it's perfectly acceptable. I'm a mum and I would never be offended if somebody asked me that (I'd suggest it, though, as we entered).

If you are tougher, ask some/one of them to help you clean the dirt marks off!