Before I get any remarks about me being a bad person I know I am already and I deserve to pay for what I have done. I met a an older woman with bipolar disorder a year ago who is divorced with 3 children. I really liked her to begin with she's so funny and special although my colleagues say she is attention seeking and has a need to be loved. I knew that she already was having sex with someone else who was living with his girlfriend but I still entered into a sex with benefits relationship with her (stupid I know I wish we were just friends).
This continued for about 8 months until she had what I believe to be a manic episode and she was off her meds, she slept with another guy who she met, no protection. Her ex-husband moved in around this point.
Day by day I could see her getting worse and giving herself away so easily to people. She became really nasty to me towards the end but I think it was the illness. I wish I could be a stronger man and help her, I feel guilty
2006-11-13 08:22:14 · 7 answers · asked by jik p 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I feel guilty for not being around for her when the going got tough
2006-11-13 08:28:38 · update #1
Okay take it from me, I have been around. You aren't a bad guy or else your conscious wouldn't be bothering you. You get points for that. You know that you won't be casual with somone who has these problems, again, right? So, more points. She is also responsible for her own actions hon. She will do these things probably again, and would have done them with others if you hadn't been in the picture. Bottom line is she is responsible for her illness, taking care of herself and her children. You made a little oopsie, you genuinly learned from it, that is good. Now let it go. As long as God loves ya, it's all good:)
2006-11-13 08:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel guilty because your not around her when she's going through a tough time then go and freaking help her, don't be shy, just talk to her nicely, apologize for not being there at the begining, help her go back on her meds, play with her children or babysit them, do something that will cheer her up and make her smile!
even if you know you won't get into a deep relationship with her, stay her friend and help her out when she needs it the most....
its time to become a stronger man do something that will change her life.
2006-11-13 09:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by No Remorse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are co-dependent and no, she is not your problem. Wanting to help and actually being able to are two different things. All you are doing right now is causing yourself unecessary grief that will send you spiraling down.
Seek help and pray.
2006-11-13 08:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by jthoms9800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what did you do wrong that you feel guilty for? This is a really confusing question.
2006-11-13 08:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty. you can not control other peoples actions. just take it as a life lesson learned, and remember it.
2006-11-13 08:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by AVENGER 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ummmmmmmmmm. wat do you feel guilty for? ok well if you feel guilty for that reason i'm sure it's not too late, ask her to forgive you and do the best you can. you need to forgive yourself first though.
2006-11-13 08:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anna Banana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So ......what was the question?????
2006-11-13 08:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by jrsgurl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋