Part of me keeps saying that I want another baby and another part of me says are you crazy lady. Me and my fiancee of 4 years are getting married in less than a month and we already have one beautiful little girl together. She will be 3 years old this December and I've been thinking about trying to have another baby now since I always told my fiancee once we get married we can talk about having another baby. I am totally confused. I really want another baby, but I am afraid it will be very hard for my daughter and that will make it that much harder on me. My daughter is already very possesive of me. Look at it this way. I was 18 when I had and I also have an 8 year old sister right now. When my little sister sits with me or wants to cuddle or hug me my daughter gets so upset. She yells and screams my mommy, my mommy. And she never stops until that person leaves me alone. I need some opinions to help me with my decision. Please some advice.
2006-11-13 08:17:05 · 7 answers · asked by Nicole 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
kids can be so protective of whats theirs. Its the age, she wil be 4 by the time you might have another and would have grasped the concept of sharing,(toys, moms, dads, etc) Just keep her involved in all aspects of the pregnancy, buy her some kid books on mommys having another baby and read to her and let her feel the baby move, she will come around and eventually understand, HEY, this is cool!
-Crystal
2006-11-13 08:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by crystald 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't plan to have a second so quickly but it happened. I am a stay at home mom to a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 month old. I am VERY stressed some days but I am sooo glad I have them both. My first daughter was a mommy's girl but really surprised me when we had our second. She would tell people that I had a baby in my tummy and then when she was born she was pretty excited. She was so proud to tell everyone that was her baby sister. She didn't mind sharing mommy's attention much at all. Sometimes she would tell me to give the baby to someone else so she could sit in my lap but that's about it. Lately though my oldest has been acting out more because she is a two year old but also so she can have more attention. She does keep her little sister entertained pretty well and helps me out. Today little sis had to get 5 shots at the doctor and after it was over big sis came over and gave her a kiss. I say if you are ready and you want another one go for it. No matter how old your daughter is, she is going to have to learn to share you and she might even love being a big sister. Just prepare her ahead of time. There are great books out there and videos. Goodluck and congrats on getting married soon.
2006-11-13 08:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by megkenzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no matter what you decide, I would work with your daughter more. Try talking to her when she starts yelling, yes I am your mommy but I am her sister, and don't give in right away. That was some advice for us our doctor gave us. Our daughter is 13 months and is the same way. We can't hold another child or baby without her freaking out....and we are pregnant again! Our doctor also told us to keep her involved with the pregnancy...everything from the appointments to the shopping. Buy her a baby and practice, and find books about brothers or sisters and make sure she knows it's her baby too. Tell her all about how she will beable to help you and how much it will mean to you and etc etc. It might be tough, but it is possible. One child is a percious gift, but think of the future too....won't she appreciate in 20 years having a sister/brother to turn to? Or (not that you want to think about it....) but when you and your soon to be husband aren't in such great health anymore? Things to think about....but yeah I would have another and READ a lot of books and get advice from people. Many have done it! Good Luck!
2006-11-13 08:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you could do is to have another baby!! your daughter has to learn that the world is not just about her, otherwise she´ll have huge problems in life..sure , there will be a lot of dramas in the beginning, ask some profesionals for advice how to deal with the jealously of you daughter..in the long run having a sibling will be the best for her...do not NOT have another baby because of her...good luck
2006-11-13 08:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We went lower back and forth in this option additionally....and we've 2 little women ( 6 and 10 ). needless to say there is the traditional sibling opposition, yet they're ultimate friends and that i don't be attentive to what that they had do without one yet another! I even have 2 sisters who're the two married and characteristic infants...properly one has 2 and the different has one on the way. i think of it is significant to have a sibling quite once you become older....whilst something occurs on your mum and dad you would be waiting to seek for convenience on your brother or sister! i'm no longer able to think of existence without my sisters! i take advantage of to think of that an added baby would be extra reliable on us...regardless of the undeniable fact that it is not. They play collectively which provides me time to prepare dinner and clean...once you have one, you spend time enjoying and appropriate them. in case you're financially sound and your husband is open to the assumption, then you quite would be very blessed to have an addition to the kinfolk! a lot of human beings additionally complication that they gained't be waiting to love a 2d baby extra suitable than they love the single they have already got......this too isn't genuine!! you're heart grows to accomodate room for the the two one among them!
2016-12-10 08:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you desire another child, then have one. Your daughter will learn that she needs to share you guys and it will be good for her in the end.
2006-11-13 08:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweatheart! Go and register yourself and child and take some Parenting Courses - your wee-one has your # and you had better get a hold of it now, before she starts school. Good Luck - don't have anymore children until you can manage the one you have.
2006-11-13 08:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋