I was with my ex for 15yrs I left him cause he cheated that was 4 yrs ago. We keep intouch from time to time even though he cheated there is still love there. I got a call over the weekend that his father passed away we all knew it was going to happen. I was planning to go to my ex's mother's house out of respect to see if I could help with anything. I was told that some thought it might not be a good idea cause my ex and his girl are there. The other half of the relatives thought it was a good idea if I went. My ex's girlfriend and I have spoken on the phone and understands that we were friends before our 15yr relationship and will always remain friends and she accepts that. I told them then I will just show up for the wake and decided not to go to the house. Was I right or wrong...
2006-11-13 08:13:04 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wrong. You owe no one an explanation for what you do. You are an adult and whatever relation you have with your ex and his new girlfriend is nobodies business but you three. And furthermore whatever relationship there is between you three has absolutely nothing to do with whatever relationship you had with his father and from that alone allows you to attend both and if nobody likes it then they are the ones with a problem larger than life. Hold your head high and go to both and let whatever happens happen but youll feel better knowing youve done nothing wrong or shameful and paid your last respects to his dad and leave it at that. Good luck
2006-11-13 08:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an ex now - your involvement with him and his family should be very minimal. I had to do the same thing a few years ago when my ex boyfriend's father passed - 6 months after I ended our relationship. I went to the visitation and they were grateful; but that was it. Simply pay your respects and stay out of it otherwise.
2006-11-13 16:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋