Issues with your best friend - 'No Emotion?' I've been friends with what you could call my best friend for...

Question

around 6 years now. We were immature and stupid up until these last two years, and now everything has come crashing down on me. I realized that while we might have all goofed off and acted stupid, there were still serious issues the two of us delt with individually that WE together have never talked about. Big issues. Problems relating to family issues on both parts, but the problems mostly surrounded her/her family. The more I think about it, the more I realize how badly I want to talk about these things with her. I want to ask her how she felt, what exactly happened, what really went on - but I'm afraid to. She generally doesn't talk about things, deep things, like this. In all the years I've known her, I've only ever seen her cry twice. She laughs and has fun, both of us do, but she never cries or outwardly shows tears, or anger for that matter. But my issue is; I want to talk to her about these things. These issues have been in my brain for a while now, and I want to talkaboutthem

Answer 1

Dude-you are a "way rare find!" MOST guys don't want or even care enough about a relationship to even attempt to talk about such things. She obviously does not know what she has with you and does not appreciate it.

Answer 2

Get her somewhere quiet. Everyone needs to have a place where they can just talk and be themselves, and if you don't have one then maybe it's time to go looking. Her house is probably not the best place, and neither is yours - even when there's nobody else in the building, the house itself might stop her from talking. You know what I mean - it's an atmosphere that says "Stay with what you know, don't shake things up, nobody needs to hear these things."

My best friend and I go to the playpark a few minutes walk away from our house. A place like that is ideal because it's far from home but not too far, and you're unlikely to be disturbed. You'll find it's much easier to talk - we look forward to our "Park in the Dark" sessions and afterwards it always feels like a cloud has been lifted.

You might want to take some food or something to drink, and depending on your relationship with your friend, she might find it easier to talk if she's not facing you - we sit on the swings side by side, and it's a lot easier than a confrontation.

Whatever happens, good luck.

tigerwolf x

Answer 3

just try to talk to your friend about it since it bothers you.if she does not want to talk about it then you'll have to respect her privacy but make sure you let her know that you would like to be involved in her life in respect of issues that make her tick and not at her happy hours.friendship can be best defined in terms of sharing the good and bad times,let her understand this. all the best.

Answer 4

this sounds like one of my friends...actually, one of my best friends is like that and i have been friends with her for approximately 5 years and she had family issues and i wanted to be able to talk to her about them, but she gets uncomfortable talking about that kind of stuff(did) until...i dunno, i don´t remember how...i think i told her that my mom talked to her mom and her mom said something and then i asked her about it and she started talking to me about it...i share my secrets with her since she is my best friend and she has started to confide in me with her secrets:) she´s such a great friend...if u start being more serious (but still urself) but just seriously talk to her and ask if she wants to talk about it(probably might say no)then at least she knows u really care about her...
good luck,
xaoooooo:)

Answer 5

sit her down and ask her if she wants to first be really serious about it be like i've always been here for you i just wanna know. . get right down to the point nice and easy and if she doesnt want to then she wont.