My boyfriend brought 4 of his friends to my house around 4 am after he and i had an argument hours earlier. He did not discuss with me the fact that they would be accompanying him home. I was steaming from the argument that had occurred, and his behavior. Once his friends were there I slammed my front door while walking out to take out trash, I asked the guests not to smoke in my home (which he and i had discussed on a prior occassion), and i asked him to turn down the music that he was playing (he says i asked with an attitude). He claims that I made the guests feel uncomfortable, and because he stays with me he should be able to have people over whenever he wants without my permission/notification. HE says that i owed him and them i suppose an apology... Aside from the fact that after they left, I cleaned up their toppled over beer bottles, paper cups, and beer tops off of my hardwood living room floor.
2006-11-13 07:59:34 · 12 answers · asked by prettydebutante 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you dont. Matter of fact he owes You an apology for pulling that sh*t.
If you are going to live together he has to respect the fact that you are there too and if he invites friends and they are not your friends, he's responsible for whatever they do.
Its all about respect. He should respect your feelings, just like you have to respect his.
Contrary to his opinion he does need your say so if he's in your place.
2006-11-13 08:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not owe anyone an apology. The apology is owed to you. These people do not respect you. Your b/f does not respect you. Staying with him and allowing this behavior says "I do not respect myself". You deserve far better treatment and to get it you are going to have to kick this man to the curb. There are plenty of men in this world that will show you respect. My husband always checks with me before binging home a guest, spending money on big purchases (he makes the money, I might add), or going out. I do the same for him. This is what you are supposed to do in a relationship. I hope you figure out what is best for you. Take care.
2006-11-13 16:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is YOUR house. Remember that. He, although a permanent one for right now, is a GUEST in your home. He should treat it that way. You in now way, shape, or form owe him or his sorry friends an apology. They, however, owe you a big one! Secondly, it is not just about the house. It is an issue of respect. If you boyfriend respected you and your belongings, he would not have "crashed" your house with a group of friends and done everything that you asked him not do do just in spite of you. Without mutual respect and consideration, what kind of relationship do you have?
2006-11-13 16:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha, no you dont, had he told you that he was bringing some guests then it would be a different story and since he is living with you, he needs to tell you those things or he can find somewhere else to live. you were right, i would have done the same thing, i might have cursed a few people out too.
2006-11-13 16:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe anybody an apology.
Next time, stop them at the door!
These are not the kind of people who have any respect for you or your home.
2006-11-13 16:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you dont owe them anything,he owes you an apology and should have more respect for you and your home,if hes not going to respect you he should move out and he can have all the friends and filth he wants
2006-11-13 16:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about letting the four people in the house, why did you let THIS JERK into your home?!
You don't owe him an apology, you owe him the boot. Seriously, why would you stay with such a jerk? Just waiting around until he starts hitting you, too?
2006-11-13 16:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by EQ 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You don't owe them anything. 4am is awful late to have people over and then to have to clean up after them......NO! I'd kick him to the curb and find someone that is not a child.
2006-11-13 16:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by MILAYA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont owe anyone anything but a kick in the a s s
2006-11-13 16:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend owes you an apology, and he should do it after you kick his inconsiderate butt out of your house.
Consider this one of life's lessons, learn from it, and find somebody who respects you.
2006-11-13 16:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋