what do you associate with a promise ring?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and i was going to give her a promise ring as i will be going into the military early 2007, but i am trying to figure out exactly what others think of promise rings and what they would associate with a promise ring such as what they would tell their loved one when they give it to them. Also, i have not told her that i love her, but she probably knows i do, and i truely do, would that be a good time to tell her?
and please include any additional information that might be helpful.

thanks

by the way, the first post, i am adding this addition..
when i give her a promise ring, i am not aiming to get in her pants, actually skirt, she doesn't wear pants... but we have both talked about it and we have agreed, no sex before marriage. and yes i do plan to marry her..

my gf is also very close to two of her sisters and they were okay with the fact of me giving her a promise ring, but even though it is not an engagement ring at the moment, should i still talk to her mom about the ring? and should i give it to her when we are alone or with her family?

Answer 1

Well to me a promise rings means that you hold her dearly to your heart and when the time is right, you will follow up with an engagement ring. You promise to be true to her and vice versa until the actual proposal comes along.

Answer 2

there are many different ways to look at a promise ring. the most common is a promise of something better to come (being the engagement ring) later on and then the wedding ring later after that.
if you are planning on marriage then this would be the way to start off but remember if you are not thinking marriage don't get her hopes up

Good Luck and Take Care in the Military

Answer 3

I recieved a promise ring from my bf after we had been dating about a year. He didnt ask my parents or anything, he gave it to me for christmas when we were alone. Everyone just kinda assumed we would end up getting married anyway so I guess it wasnt a huge deal. Whenever anyone asked, I would tell them it was a promise ring... but I never declared it to the world. Things didnt work out with us... so im kinda bitter abt the whole promise ring issue... You should have told her a while ago that you loved her... but defintely try to tell her before you give her the ring so you know exactly how she feels. Goodluck!

Answer 4

I think a promise ring is a crock. What are you promising? That you'll marry her? If so, an engagement ring is what you'd give her.

I've always viewed a promise ring as just a ploy for a guy to get into a girls pants. Harsh, but that's what I think about it.

About your additional details...you asked what I think and as a woman, that's what I think. It has nothing to do with what your personal intentions are, it's merely my opinion.

Answer 5

When a girl or a guy give each other promises rings that means that you are going to marry that person within 2-5 yrs so good luck and congrats on wanting to get married for when you give that to her that is what it will mean to her

Answer 6

When I think promise ring, I think of a man who is too cheap to buy an engagement ring.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

In your case you can promise that when you are gone, you promise to be faithful and that you love her and that you promise to have a relationship when you get back

Answer 9

promise ring to me means immature high school crap. you haven't told her you love her, yet you're gonna buy her a ring promising to be with her forever? don't buy the ring...

Answer 10

don't promise show her how you feel by getting engaged.don't promise make it happen.