my son and I have to move due to long term harrassment from neighbours.They gossip,have jammed up our door lock with glue and spread gossip that got me smacked in the face with a piece of wood.Do you think I should teach them a lesson before I go?nothing serious of course,just so they know that they have not beaten me,and to make them suffer in the way we have?
2006-11-13 07:47:13 · 35 answers · asked by pinkydinkydoo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Getting revenge may give you some sense of getting your own back, but this will only be very short term. You are feeling bitter and resentful at the moment, it will pass; so you dont want to end up feeling bad for exacting any revenge on them, because this will only make you as bad as them. Dont be as bad as they are! Time is a great healer, you have the chance of starting a new life when you move. It may help to write them a calm letter stating exactly what they did to you and how it affected you and your son. Do not be nasty and insulting in your letter, just state the facts. Then end it by saying that you will come to forgive them in time, say goodbye and wish them well. If they have any sense of decency, your letter will make them realise just how serious their actions towards you were. And hopefully, your letter will make them feel guilty and stupid. You will never what affect your letter will have on them, but it may be therapeutic for you to write it. The pen is mightier than the sword as they say. Believe me, in time you will get over this and be glad that you did not get down on their level and play their silly games by getting back at them.
Once you have moved, keep your new neighbours at arms length. Be polite, smile and greet them, but leave it at that. Wait a while and take the time to suss out what your new neighbours are like before you even consider getting involved in any way with them.
I wish you all the best and hope that you move to a decent neighbour hood where you may eventually find some true friends. Good Luck!!!! :o) xxx
2006-11-13 17:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too right some people donlt learn by ignoring them. Also it will make you feel better. I know some people won't agree but sometimes the only way ar*eholes learn is by experiencing something horrible in return. But remember revenge is a dish best served cold. Move first, leave it a while and then think if something very very clever, but not nasty. Just something to p*ss them off!
2006-11-13 07:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rise above it - You have to be a better person than your neighbors. I know it may make you feel better but it will only be temporarily. You also want to set a good example for your children on what they should do when people turn against them (and we know we all have that happen at least once in our lives) Good luck!
You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims. -- Harriet Woods (1927-) American Politician
2006-11-13 09:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You,& or your son must have done something to create all this animosity.I find it hard to believe your neighbours decided to gang up on you for nothing.The fact that you want to cause them a bit of hassle before you go shows you have a spiteful nature.If you really are the innocent party,then leave with your head held high,& don't lower yourself to their level.
2006-11-13 07:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deep and ask yourself what is the root of the problem that`s causing you to move,and if you truly believe that it`s not your fault,just send your neighbours a letter saying that you`re" sorry to lose such a good neighbour" and you hope to meet again soon together with another nieghbour (perhaps one they don`t like). If not forget, and move on.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 08:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY.......being a woman with lousy neighbors myself, I can definitely relate to what you're feeling. I sure hope you filed police reports for these things they've done to you!!
Their smeared reputations and police reports that will never go away, would be punishment enough.
You wouldn't want to do anything that you, yourself, could get into trouble for. Nothing illegal. They aren't worth the risk or time.
2006-11-13 07:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this first: What is there to gain and is this the kind of example you would want to set for your son?
I hope you took legal action. If you did they no you weren't beaten. Good Luck and moving is the smart thing to do...........
2006-11-13 07:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by pikeruss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you move then they have beaten you...BUT...leave it a few months...then go back at night and get yourself some revenge... just make sure you cover your tracks so you don't get caught.
I could give you some ideas but i wont....just use your imagination.
Remember...'Revenge is a dish best serve cold.........'
Good luck.
2006-11-13 08:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by blissman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO revenge. You are just stooping as low as they are. I would write them a thoughtful and well written letter and explain to them how rude they have been and how you and your son do NOT appreciate it. And then wish them well. They will never know what hit them.
2006-11-13 07:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sending them a gift-wrapped turd in the mail is always nice. Not that I would want to condone revenge or give you any ideas.
2006-11-13 07:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by CrankyYankee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋