He will get mad and not talk to me for days. Infact he has not talked to me for up to 2 weeks at times. This really is effecting me mentally. What can I do??
2006-11-13 07:41:14 · 13 answers · asked by Robyn D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! It's passive agressive. It's abuse! It's hurtful and it's meant to be hurtful. He's punishing you, and it's immature.
2006-11-13 08:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its passive aggressive, maybe he has no relationship skills, and just doesn't know how to settle arguments, or problems. get him to agree to go to therapy. u can disarm an angry person,find some way to agree with whatever they say, even if they are wrong, don't use sarcasm, or defensiveness. acknowledge that his upset is understandable, based on how he views the situation. he doesn't talk because he feels it's hopeless, and that nothing can be done, also he mostlikely doesn't tell u why he is upset.
2006-11-13 14:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give him the choice to ignore you for that long. Its one thing to have some space when fighting so that you can clear your thoughts. But I guess it just depends on the reasons why he is upset with you. Tell him you don't understand his reasoning and try to re-evaluate what it is that is making him so angry. And from there decide how you are going to approach the situation, without attacking and turning around and getting angry at him.
You should learn how to communicate with each other otherwise there is this wonder and confusion, that isn't necessary.
2006-11-13 07:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by hmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married to this guy. If not, pack up your stuff and get out. He has real communication problems, and they don't get better unless the two of you get help. He appears to like it that way. So, my question is, why are you still there?
If you are married to this guy, you'll need to get the two of you in counselling. God, what ARE you thinking, hon? LIfe is supposed to be fun, marriage is sharing, and loving, and having a great time. When it isn't, it's time to fix it or leave.
2006-11-13 08:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks is a long time to be mad at someone and not do anything about it. I wouldn't say it's outright abuse, but it's annoying. Move on from this relationship.
2006-11-13 07:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is punishing you. In a very unhealthy way, I might add. Suggest he get therapy. You are not wrong and nothing could be so bad that it merits the silent treatment for 2 weeks (unless you cheated on him and are having your lover's baby, which I doubt). Good luck.
2006-11-13 07:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do to cause the silent treatment? What would you prefer? Him slapping the hair off your head and verbally abusing you?
This could be his way of venting his frustration without saying or doing things that would REALLY hurt you.
Hum... Which one sounds better to you?
2006-11-13 07:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... this is just plain old abuse... no adjectives required...
Your best bet is to move on for your own mental well being... He's a strange bird... if you decide to stick around just get used to being by yourself even though he's there...
2006-11-13 07:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had this happen too. Its awful. There is alot more life out there. men who really like to talk and be verbal, argue then are over it and move on. Life is way too short to be acting like that. Sounds like your with my ex. I know trying to talk doesn't help because you can't GET him to verbalize. Move on my dear.
2006-11-13 08:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by hollybarry08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him back, don't pay any attention to him at all. Go about your business like he wasn't there. He will get the message.
2006-11-13 08:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋