Do parents and children share equal blame? explain if your answer is yes or no?

Question

conflict between parents and their children,
friction between parents and their children,
causes of friction

Answer 1

No, they can not share the blame equally. The parents job was to teach the child how to behave, what to embrace in their lives..to teach the child with love and respect and empathy when the child errors. There should not be blame, we all do the best we know how to at the moment.. the parent will be a better teacher when he/she learns better. The best form of discipline is relationship; Don't place blame or ridicule. You didn't like it as a kid, end the cycle. Show empathy for their problem, offer help if they need it..don't solve the problem for them.. help them to learn how to make good choices...but allow them to make mistakes, small affordable ones, hopefully. The child will grow up with self confidence; and the parent will be able to trust the child to make good choices in life. And the home will be filled with love and respect for each other- parent and child. And it's never too late to learn a better way.

Answer 2

In my situation I didn't create the discord with my kids but I reacted to things they did and they constantly caused problems and when I responded and disciplined them they got angry and blamed me as if I'm the one who created the problem in the first place! There was a test put out a couple of years ago that asked parents and children to note who started conflicts in the home and my daughter and I decided to participate because she'd told them that I caused the problems. We noted that in a weeks time every single argument and disagreement was brought about by something that my daughter did. Whenever something came up I would say who started this and she would say I did. After 3 weeks she quit. It's been like this with my children and I truly looked forward to the time when they were gone and I wouldn't have any more problems, conflicts, arguments, disagreements, and family stress. My last child left home in September and I don't have anymore problems. I didn't bring difficulties into the home and so I have none now. There are some parents who are as bad about disrupting the household as the children. I knew not to be that kind of parent and although no one appreciates that fact but me I feel that I did it the right way.

Answer 3

This is a very broad question. I think society holds as much blame as the parents and children. We live in a society where a lot of people have to work two jobs to make ends meet and we are not rasing our own children. Our children are being raised by their peers, daycare workers, teachers, and anyone else that comes into contact with them on a regular basis. Try as we may to accomplish everything the one thing we can not accomplish is raising or children without physicall time with them. Actual conflict between parent and child is normal to some extent and don't believe blame should go for a normal degree of conflict or friction. Conflict can be caused by parents not having enough time, being too strict, or not strict enough. Parenting is not easy and is not supposed to be easy. It is a balancing act that in this day and age has become impossible. The parents that do have the proper amount of time to raise their children are fighting peer pressures their children come into contact with because other parents are not raising their own children. A lot of the time it is not because the parent does not want to be there to raise there children but because of financial necessity. There is truly no good resolution to the problem and it is a viscious circle that will continue until society as a whole starts focusing on raising children to become the best they can be and helping find a way parents can spend the needed time with their children to accomplish this.

Men need to financially and physically help in the raising of their children and Mom's need to stay off of alcohol and drugs so they to can be a supportive part of raising their own children. We need to be good role models for our children and show them not tell them the right way to live and treat each other. I am not with my sons father but we work together to raise him and make decisions about the things that will benefit him. I get financial support and he is regularly coming to see his son. Consistency is the most important part of a childs upbringing. My son knows that both of his parents love him and will always love him. That of course is not enough and together we do our best to give the time to teach him how he should be. I can only hope that all that we are attempting to do for him will be enough in the long run to keep him out of trouble and to become the man that he is capable of being.

Answer 4

Children no longer know how how to show respect. They want to have their own way all the time and how can they when they have no idea how life really is. Thats something one only learns with age yet they think the know everything at sixteen.