How soon is too soon to date after separating from my husband?

Question

My husband left me May of this year. Our divorce will be final May 22 2007. He already has found someone else. I want to try and work things out, but he does not. We have a 21 month old son and I want to be a family again.

Answer 1

well if u really loved the person then dating will be hard for u to get back into , i would say give yourself time to get situated both emotionlally and physically time heals a broken heart dont jump into the dating seen just because your lonely and need someone etc , if u need to help get your mind off things go out with the girls etc , in time u will know when its the right time to start dating , if u hae kids and there old enough to understand let them know that u want to start dating again etc cause there affected as well and they may rebell when u bring home another guy even if its just for diiner , dont do like my aunt did her husband past away and she had the nerve to bring the man she had an affair with/boyfriend to her husbands funeral
dont worrie bout him moving on it wont last i garantee it , sounds like oyur hubby well x cant keep his pole out of the fishing hole long enough to realize that when u get with someone on a rebound that it wont last and most likely he jumped into the hole to get back at u or hurt u even more girl dont worrie bout it u will find happineesss again and look u got that baby to take care of and hes more important than any man out there so devote your time to him but rember take a break for yorself now and then and mr right will come along before u know it without even looking

Answer 2

Too soon would be within the first 5 or 6 mos., I would think. That is if you are sure it is completely over with your ex. If there is any chance at all of reconciliation then dating on either yours or your exes part could cause problems down the road. It took me nearly a year to decide to date. I had been married for 12 1/2 yrs. and our parting was not amicable - I was not ready to trust again, yet. And, if you have children, that is a factor also. You have to consider their readiness for this step, too.
If your split was friendly and you are feeling emotionally ready - go ahead. If you are still emotionally devastated or you are just wanting to make your ex jealous, I would take a step back and spend some time on you. Go to counseling, join a support group, rely on a couple of really good girlfriends or family members to help keep you occupied. Once you get comfortable with just being you again, you will be ready to date.
In any case best of luck to you.

Answer 3

If you are positive you're done with him, no chance of reconciliation, then right away is fine. If you think you need a break and you may get back together, don't date until it's final. You don't want to toy with anyone's feelings. Most likely people are going to talk about how soon you dated or if you're dating, etc., so you have to be prepared for that, no matter how soon or how long it is.

Answer 4

You need not invest any time nor energy into another man until your heart has forgiven your soon to be ex husband for leaving you and his child. You would be no good right now to another man. You only want another man right now cause your askhole of husband has another piece in his life. Work on you. Perfect your finances as much as possible, get your credit together, earn a degree or advance degree etc. Don't worry about men right now, God will send you what you need when your ready for it.

Answer 5

There are no time limits to keep. But you must know that when you devorce, you are in a rebound. So you might try to look for someone like your ex-husband, minus the flaws. It's not the ideal thing. I suggest that it's best to be patient. Stay alone for a while and get to know yourself better. Maybe you are just afraid to be alone... Analyse the situation and when you are fully over your ex, then you can date and have a great time.

Answer 6

While I am sure there is no simple answer to your question, I have been divorced for over 8 months and have no plans to start dating. I have children that live with me and I have chosen to devote my time and energy to them instead. There is a grieving process and it really depends on where you are at in this process. You want to make sure that you are comfortable with yourself so that whomever you decide to date will get the benefit of a healthy you. Good luck with everything.

Answer 7

I wish I had more information to go on, like how long until you file for a divorce?
After a divorce, it's usually a year, to give yourself time to grieve and not carry problems over from your marriage to another relationship.

Answer 8

There is no date that you have worry on dating after you and your husband separate for as long as you feel up to it and you want it
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Answer 9

Is it over??? Do you intend to try to patch it up?? If you are ready to go on in your life with no thought of EVER returning to him, or trying counseling, then you should have started yesterday. If you think that this marriage can be saved, you'll need to be fair, and wait until you are divorced, and single again...

Answer 10

I wouldn't recommend it until the divorce is complete because technically you're still married. You probably need time to be alone and to heal too. Take it slow.