i cheated and i want to make it up to him... any help on how??? we have 2 kids together?

Answer 1

Did he find out? is he ok to move on?. You must realize you broke his trust, trust is a very delicate thing, it is so fragil an indiscretion can ruin the strongest relationship. I think the nicest thing you could do for him is to expect he will throw your mistake on your face everytime you have a fight, if he is nice enough to not do it then it is fine but if he is not you should forgive him and ask him to please not do that again because you feel really bad about it and it hurts you so deeply. But don't take it personally. I assure you he will eventually forget about it.

If you want to make it up to him I have to tell you it is impossible, but you can give him your promise (and don't break it) that this will never happen ever again, keep your promise, he needs to see you for a long time very focused on him, very dedicated to your family, that will restore his confidence.

Don't throw a big party for him to "make it up to him", there is nothing you can do and he will feel you are trying to buy his trust again. Why don't you just work on the details of your relationship?, make his favorite food every week, give him a kiss goodnight, say I love you every day, etc. That will work better. XOXO.

Answer 2

I hate to sound cold but...No. You can't make it up to him. There's nothing you can say or do to have him understand why you did what you did to him. He's never going to get over it. If he takes you back, things may get worse. He might want revenge against you and end up cheating on you, for payback. Since you have kids together, you should've been thinking about them, while you were messing around with someone who wasn't their father. What are your kids going to say when they find out you cheated on their father? They may be too young to know now, but they will find out when they're older. You caused a major problem in your life. If you love your the father of your child, why would you make the worst mistake you could have ever made for the sake of your family? You didn't just hurt your man (x-man), you hurt your whole family. How? That's a very good question. I'm hoping, for your sake, that the father of your children, is forgiving. That's the only way he might consider taking you back...if he still loves you. You know you can fall inlove and fall out of love. You probably caused him to fall out of love from you. Give him time to get over the pain you caused and see if he makes the first move to atleast talk to you. Otherwise, leave him alone. Don't bother him, you'll make matters worse. Just let him be the one to talk to you first. Listen to what he has to say, if he ever talks to you again. You speak after he's done speaking to you. But if you haven't said sorry yet, then you should've done that first, which won't really mean anything to him. You're sorry now, the sorry won't relieve the pain of a broken heart. You're a bad bad girl. My boy-friend might've hurt me and find the guy if I ever cheat on him...thank God I ignore other men, besides my boy-friend. I am so dedicated into loving him and only him...unless he cheats or something. God forbid. How would you feel if he cheated on you? Geesh!

Answer 3

You can't ever make something like that up to anyone. It's something you did for whatever reason, and he either chooses to stay with you and work on the marriage, or he goes. As far as getting trust back, he won't. This is something I feel you took from him, and it's impossible to get back. It will always be in the back of his head every time you are not together. Every time he has relations with you, it will be in the back of his head. He can forgive you if he wants, and then put the marriage back together, but if he can't do this, there will always be problems. I hope you understand the devastation he feels, and if you reverse the situation, you might get it. Take your time with him, don't push, if he loves you, there is always a chance. My suggestion to you is, next time you are tempted, think of your husband, and those two children. That's all we really have. I wish you luck, love, and understanding.

Answer 4

There is no "making it up" for something like that.This is the worst violation of trust that could happen in a relationship. Assuming that your marriage can be saved, you will always have to "prove" that you can be trusted, and even then, there will always be events that will bring this hurt and pain back to his mind.

You really went down the wrong road here. Perhaps some counselings for the two of you may help. But what's done, is done. And it can NEVER be un-done. Good luck. If you get another chance, be grateful, and don't mess it up again.

Answer 5

Well first, don't go with the big confession routine and hope he puts his arms around you, hugs you and tells you it's okay, because sweetie, it isn't okay. You have shared your soul and body with another man, and frankly if he doesn't vomit in your face, you'd be lucky. You made one mistake, don't make two by giving him a big confession...... if he were smart, he'd toss your A$$ out in the street...if he doesn't know, don't tell him just to clear your conscious, because it would take two+ years of counselling to have even a chance to save your marriage. Marriage is Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust. The trust would disappear, and the rest of your marriage would be down the tubes --- how could he have any of the other three for you????????????

To make it up to him, be a wife to him, and a mother to your children. Oh, and in case you haven't figured it out, remain faithful to your husband. There is nothing worse in a marriage than betrayal........

Answer 6

Really, that's up to him. For some men, it's as simple as never letting you forget... kind of gives them something to hang over your head for the rest of your life. I can't imagine living that way, but some guys that's what it takes. Other guys, it's more elaborate: you had another guy, they want another girl, or they want you to stop nagging them about their porn addiction, or they want you to keep the house cleaner, or they want you to get along with their mother. At any rate, he is the only one that can offer you forgiveness, he's the one you have to ask for terms.

He may also be too hurt to offer terms. Don't offer him any kind of advice on terms unless he asks for it. Whatever you offer might sound like an insult. If he really wants to forgive you and wants to see you're serious, then suggest some things you think would be suitible.

Answer 7

If the roles were reversed what would he have to do?
How long did the affair last in his mind?
Now multiply what you would have to do by every moment of pain he went through and you just might have a start on what you need to do. Its a long road and there are no fresh starts. This is your only life and you are what you make of it.

If he never found out then I recommend to that you never let him find out and that would again only be a starting point.

Answer 8

If you are genuine, then just admit that you made a mistake and explain what made you do it. If he accepts and forgives you, and you actually get back together, try to change the way you treat your man so that he feels like you are a different person altogether. Good luck.

Answer 9

You more than likely have messed your marriage up. The absolute best thing to do is really repent. Make sure it's obvious to him it's over.

Open every piece of your life up to him so he can see for himself. He might want to talk to this guy, let him so he can find out what this other person is offering he has not.

I think you get whatever is coming to you. The best thing would be for your husband to get custody of the children. You have pr oven to the world you have very poor judgment.

Answer 10

You should have thought of him and your children before you ever cheated on him. I'm not sure you can ever make something like that up to him. He may never forgive you and may never get over it. I hope it was worth it!