I am desperate
2006-11-13 07:09:26 · 11 answers · asked by Nora la exploradora 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If you have a sling- wear your baby for awhile everyday. Even at 6 months babies still need to he held and comforted. Some babies if they are left to cry end up being clingier!!
When your baby is acting happy put him down on the floor and play with him. Give him toys to look at and talk to him. Eventually, you can slowly move away and talk to him from a distance but always keep him in sight. It won't be long before your little one will be crawling and getting into everything and you may wish for the days when he wasn't so independent!
If you have a swing you can also put your baby in a swing in the same room you are in. I always put my son in his swing when I cleaned. I had him facing me so he could see what I was doing and I talked to him while he was in there. He was happy and content as long as I interacted with him. I used the swing up until he was 8 months at that point he was pretty mobile and I could not keep him in there.
If you have a stroller, take him for a walk and give your hands a rest. The fresh air may help the two of you. If he is content being outside, use the stroller, a playpen, a swing or an exersaucer and take him outside for a little bit each day.
If you have friends or family maybe have them help you on days when your son is just being super clingy. The interaction with other people may do you both good. They can help hold him and give you a much needed break.
I wish you luck. It is tough when they want to be held all the time but they do eventually outgrow this phase. Enjoy all the cuddles while you can!!!
2006-11-13 07:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by jns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 5 months and becoming attached so we've started to let her cry things out. We put her on the floor to play with her toys alone and step back and watch her go. The exersaucer is the greatest invention by far for me...I put her in it in front of the t.v., turn on a baby einstein dvd and let her do her thing so I can cook dinner or do laundry. I understand completely how hard it is but basically you've got to get him involved with his toys and playing on his own. Show him how he can play with things on his own. Also, have you started going out without him, having a relative or close friend watch him? If not you need to start doing that too. Start slowly with like an hour then work your way up to two hours and so on and so on. That way he understands that he's okay without you and you'll come back eventually. Best of luck!
2006-11-13 15:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they are still pretty damn clingy at that age. you can only try to separate yourself very slowly. if you just do this abruptly so will be doing more harm than good. at 6 mo babies still need to feel secure and loved. sorry but your desperation must continue, you are the only thing they know......little by little your baby will learn that the fun is around you not on you
2006-11-13 16:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lori C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give me specific examples of you is making you desperate I will try to help (and I will keep checking back on this question)
However, I can not in good faith recommend forcing independence at this age. Babies are dependant, they are helpless they are BABIES and they need a good bond with mom and a sense of security.
2006-11-13 15:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set him down and let him play. Sit next to him for awhile then slowly sit on the couch or in a chair while he plays on the floor. Then walk away and keep talking to him to let him know you're still there (but stay in his view). It's all about transition. If he can see he's fine playing by himself while you're sitting next to him, and then see he's fine playing by himself when you're sitting on the other side of the room, and finally see he's fine when you're standing on the other side of the room doing something else then he'll learn how to be independent.
2006-11-13 15:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Attachment is very normal at this age. I suggest that you let her play by herself when she is happy*with you int he room* and when she is sad you console her. If she knows that you are there for her needs she will be more apt to explore and learn that you are there for her, always.
2006-11-13 15:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a 7 month old who is also very attached to me, when I leave the room he cries or follows me, it is so bad that I can't get him to sleep in his crib. My doctor told me to put him in his crib or swing, or something that he is by himself for 15 mins at a time even if he cries the whole time. Come and get him and do this once per hour or so until he understands that when he's by himself he is alright.
2006-11-13 15:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by april2006boy 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
why did you have a baby in the first place?
they are only little for a short while...enjoy it
2006-11-14 11:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by kardea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are good ideas
but i say let him
they dont act that way for long
after this hell go through a phase where he doesnt even want you
eat it up while you can
2006-11-13 15:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by jes 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should set him down and just let him cry
2006-11-13 15:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by bigprimo3 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋