I am 19 and in sept. 2006 I miscarried, I am now pregent again. My mother who lost her son in Sept of the following year, to it harder then anyone when she found out I miscarried. My spouse and I thought we should wait to tell her untill I get past my first trimester. To make sure its not another miscarriage, She is also disabled and a very emotion person. Do you think this is a good idea? We plan on not telling anyone. So no one gets false hope.
Crystal
2006-11-13 07:02:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
1st off congrats to u and ur spouse...
2nd i had a miscarriage in July off this year so i understand the feeling....
3rd i would wait to tell her cause like you said you don't want to get false hopes up for her..
4th i really believe that you and your baby is gonna be fine...
i think that I'm pregnant but I'm not sure so i ask that you can blow some of your baby dust my way!!!!
2006-11-13 07:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by MZ.SMOOTH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. I miscarried my first pregnancy. It was questionable from the beginning, so I didn't want to tell anyone. However, a few people found out. The timing was horrible because I found out I miscarried on my mother's birthday and they wanted to schedule my D&C on my birthday. Thankfully, I was able to postpone it a day.
Anyway, it took 9 months before we conceived again. Although all the tests were fine from the beginning, I was still so nervous to tell anyone. We ended up telling our immediate family and very close friends but I didn't make it public knowledge until I was through my first trimester.
If your mom took it that bad, then maybe it's better to wait until you've made it thru your first trimester. Best wishes.
2006-11-13 15:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea to wait until after the first trimester. Then when you get into your second trimester and things are more secure, give her a framed picture of the most recent ultrasound. Congrats and best wishes! I will pray for you for a healthy and successful pregnancy and delivery.
2006-11-13 15:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think that you should wait to tell her, so you can make sure it's not a miscarriage. She will be happy to hear it for sure, but if she finds out that you couldn't go through with the pregnancy, she will be devastated. I wish you good luck with the baby and all you hope for in life. xxx lots of hugs
2006-11-13 15:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would always wait to tell my friends and family until after 12 weeks because the chances of miscarrying ar high.
I HOPE EVERYTHING GOES WELL FOR YOU
GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-13 15:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tina R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a very wise decision! Wait to make sure, then do something special for the announcement! Congrats and Good luck~
2006-11-13 15:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i completely understand. i had 2 miscarriages and when I got pregnant the 3rd time we didn't tell anyone until I had an u/s and knew that everything was alright. so we told my mom by taking her the picture and a poem about becoming a gramma.
it's not a bad thing to wait until you know things are ok
2006-11-13 15:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 3 m/c's of my own, I waited til I was past 20 weeks to tell anyone about this pregnancy. I couldn't stand the "untelling" part of it anymore.
2006-11-13 15:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by debs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very wise not to tell anyone until after the first trimester. good luck on this one, and congrats
2006-11-13 15:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a misscariage to and it is not a fun thing to experiance!? now i am 4 months preg. i waited to tell my family when i was 3 months. so yeah its best to wait? good luck and congrats
2006-11-13 15:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by i luv ariana alize! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋