caught my x with girl bout a year ago. that's when we split. he married this girl bout 8 months ago. no communication with him all this time. he was hating me most of this time. now all of a sudden he calls several times a week. joking around and making remarks such as going riding together. told him to take his wife. asked him what makes him think that i would want to go with him. he replies cause i was laughin and smiling. we have kids so i figured its best to get along with him.
2006-11-13
06:53:52
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thought i had made it clear on several occasions that i want nothing to do with him in that area!!! ex: when he was begging to come back, i very sweetly told him H E L L N O!!!!
2006-11-13
07:10:48 ·
update #1
started dating this really terrific man over a month ago.. there's no way i would wanna go back to that!!!
2006-11-13
07:15:39 ·
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He is trying to be up to no good. Co-parent with him and let that be it. He wants you to go riding, yeah, I bet he does.
2006-11-13 06:56:50
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answered by Premo Mom 5
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Although I agree that it's important to "get along" for the sake of your children, I'd make it perfectly clear to him that you are not interested. He sounds like nothing but "trouble" to me and you deserve much better.
Maybe the "grass wasn't greener on the other side" and he's just starting to realize it. If he had loved and respected you when you were married, he wouldn't have cheated on you. Obviously he hasn't realized his mistakes or changed because he's doing the same thing to his new wife.
I think you made a very good choice by making him your "ex"! Best of luck to you.
2006-11-13 15:01:45
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answered by Mugsy's Place 5
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It is best to have a good relationship with him for the sake of the children but nothing more. Baby daddy's always think that they can get us back. He is just testing you to see if you will give in. He is going to stay with his wife but wants to know that he can tip toe back to you when he wants. Well you need to let him know that he can never have you again. Once a cheater always a cheater and you shouldn't want anything to do with that.
I know its best to forgive and never forget but don't give him the impression that he can always come back to you. He did you wrong and went and married this woman and now he wants to be all friendly. He is up to something if you ask me. Don't give in girl. Set him straight and keep it as a parenting relationship. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-13 15:09:31
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answered by MonaLisa 4
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What is up? What's up is him doing the same thing to new wife as he was doing to you, cheating! Of course you have to get along for the sake of the children, but that is all. No joy rides, no phone calls late at night, nothing! Tell him to take a hike unless he wants to discuss the children. You don't owe him a thing!
2006-11-13 14:59:04
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answered by niedermn 1
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He is looking for a fling or is having issues in his marriage. He's looking for something that he felt comfortable with at one point in his life: you.
Unsolicited feedback: Try to have a heart to heart with him and get him to say straight up what he's after. There's no other way around it when you have kids. Unfortunately we need better communication to make a split happen then what many people had when married.
2006-11-13 14:57:30
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answered by donewiththismess 5
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He's already tired of the "piece" he has right now, and he's remembering how good your's was.
Sence he's a cheat, he's going to see if you'll be the next one he gets caught with.
Why is it most men do think their ex's are and will be there for their booty call?
It's up to you, but if you do, that makes you a cheater too, so you won't beable to ever point fingers at all of them again!! :-)
2006-11-13 14:58:58
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answered by peggin_beast 6
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Wrong. He made his choice a year ago, now he has to live with the consequences of that choice. Move forward honey! Don't talk to the ex unless you have to, then make it quick and to the point. He'll figure out his mistake...
2006-11-13 14:56:36
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answered by daj11551 4
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he is not getting along with the woman, thinks he can just come back to u, he is trying to see how u will respond to him wanting to take u riding. sounds as if theres trouble in paradise, just what he get's for cheating on u. what goes around comes around, and sounds as if his marriage isn't going so well, and he wants to get back with u.
2006-11-13 19:51:50
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answered by jude 7
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You caught him with his future wife, they are married so you have kids together does that mean you want him to be part of your life again? he left you and married someone else, what else is there to know. Who cares what he is up to.
2006-11-13 14:59:22
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answered by lara 5
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Booty call. Why would you even consider someone who can't be faithful to their wife. Consider yourself lucky you weren't the one he married.
And the way to get him to stop calling is let him know you may consider letting his wife know that he wants to go "riding".
2006-11-13 15:01:18
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answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4
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