My newly wedded husband and I were on our way home from our weekly date night. I suddenly and unexpectedly passed gas and it was BAD. My usually attentive husband who thinks it's terrible to jokingly say little snide remarks about people, said, "I'm sorry, but WHAT CRAWLED UP IN YOU AND DIED?" I laughed it off and apologized profusely, being extremely embarrassed. I am now making myself sick a week later, still trying not to let that happen in his presence again. Does his reaction seem tacky to anyone? How can I make him aware that while that may have been an appropriate thing to say with "the guys", that I'm still in the "trying to impress him" stage, and that was a demeaning thing to say?
2006-11-13 06:45:43 · 16 answers · asked by Angel L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Relax honey, It's natural and everybody does it. That comment may have been his way of breaking the ice, to make you feel a little more comfortable about your little outburst. He might have meant it as a joke and it just came out bad, so don't take it too personal. You should have had a clever comeback like, "hey buddy, you don't smell like fresh potpourri" or something like that. This is your husband for crying out loud, obviously you have done enough impressing, as he is now your hubby. If something like a little gas gets you uncomfortable, what about going number 2 and he goes in the bathroom right behind you? or when you have babies and he really gets to see the whole other side of you and possibly the inside too? This is the man you chose to marry and in worst case scenario, the man who will have to take care of you in the event you cannot do so yourself one day. He obviously loves you and probably hasn't given it another thought. I actually have male friends who say they don't fully trust a woman, and that she must not love them unless she has passed gas around them. Men are different than woman, and when it comes to gas this is no acception. While we sit there uncomfortable, with our stomach's churning, trying to hold in gas, men let it go and do not care how offensive the smell. We as woman are taught from early that passing gas in public is unlady-like, but did you also know holding it in can kill you? I know it was and can be quite embarrassing especially if it slips out and then has an offensive odor, but it's natural, just tell him it's an acquired smell and he has plenty of time to get used to it. LOL. All the best.
2006-11-13 07:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sweating the small things like a fart its going to be a long relationship with lots of drama...Yeah you think its cool that he said something like that to one of the guys but not to you so next time you FART :) instead of letting him say something while you have sat there and acted like you didn't do anything you say: "oh that was a good rip wasn't it hunny, roll the window down".. laugh and enjoy another quirky married moment :)
2006-11-13 07:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by MommaG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up immediately!
Uh, people do fart...it's a natural body function. You want her to hold it in and explode or worse end up with some weird cancer after holding all those fart bubbles in all those years.
If you can't burp, fart and belch while in the own privacy of each others' company, well, good luck with the realtionship. in public or at work...yeah, ya might want to go find somewhere private to let 'er rip.
2006-11-13 06:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married to this guy, you should get over it. Joking is the best way to not be embarrassed. Do you think he should just have overlooked it. What happens if you let one in public? You want him to take credit for it I'm sure.
Lighten up and congratulations.
2006-11-13 06:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did that once in bed before making love. It turned me completely off, sorry but I couldn't help it. Your husband should have said nothing to you, I agree. But if never mentioned it again, then I would say let it go.
2006-11-13 07:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still trying to impress him... what that's ludicris
your married you two should be completely open to eachother..
like he could walk in on you on the toilet and besides a little embarassment who cares
your not just b/f and g/f of two months your togeather for the long haul and you both need to be completely comfortable with all the good and all the bad
2006-11-13 06:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should have ignored it. If you are together long enough,you will see about everything each other does,but it doesn't mean you have to make notice about it. I agree with you, he was being tacky. Let it go,though.
2006-11-13 06:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by lumberman57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey y'all are married you can fart (yes fart not just pass gas) burp and do all kind of nasty things. You have impressed him so much that he married you. Now give it a rest and enjoy each other.
2006-11-13 06:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMgoodness.........don't be embarrassed.....
A quote from my 12 year old daughter:
"Mom, its a natural bodily function, just spray some Lysol.......GOD!"
A quote from my 3 year old son:
"I tooted!"
And now last but not least a quote from your truly:
"Y'all might want to avoid me for about 5 min., those beans are still processing!"
2006-11-13 06:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sqrlll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its no big deal, i think!! You guys are married and will have alot more embarassing mometns just chill out...tell him to relax or you relax what ever the situation is!!
2006-11-13 06:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Romy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋