She left some homework on my desk so I brought it to school this morning and found out she wasn't even there. I dropped her off there this morning. I hope this is the only time she has done it. Got any good punishment ideas, no beating answers please.
2006-11-13 06:45:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
her punishment should suit her-so if she likes to be with friends then ground her, or take away phone/computer, or take away something thats important to her.
2006-11-13 06:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and just had a kid but I remember doing stuff like that. As someone younger, who use to get punished less than 2 years ago, this is my advice. Tell her you know she wasn't there. Drop her off and pick her up every morning(if you can) but most important, tell the school to notify you immediately if she is not there. Let them know what is going on. Because once the school is involved it will be much harder for her to skip, her having to be dropped offed and picked up isn't going to stop her just make her feel embarrassed and more like a child.
2006-11-13 07:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Morbid Fairy Dust 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH Boy, check with the counselor at school. they have some doozies of consequence suggestions that parents can utilize right on the school property. Imagine her washing windows and explaining to her friends what and why she is in trouble. Bet it will be the last time! Otherwize instruct the school to contact you if she doesnt make an appearance-an open line of communication is essential. Keep her close for awhile, now you have a good reason and she may decide skipping is not worth it! Good Luck
2006-11-13 06:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by ronnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as punishment, if you don't believe in spanking, then take her toys, phone, computer, games, etc. away for a week or two and don't allow her over to friends' houses in this time. The punishment has to fit the crime and skipping school is pretty big to me. So be sure you're not just taking away one thing (like her cell phone if she has one) and leaving her her computer to message and chat with friends.
When I was in elementary school, the school had a rule that parents were to inform them by telephone of my absence when I was sick. So, talk to your daughter's teachers and ask them to give you a call or contact the office to call you if your daughter is absent without your notice. Let your daughter know that the school will contact you about her absence unless you call her in. This way she'll think twice about skipping. Best of luck!
2006-11-13 06:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
T.V./VCR/STEREO out of her room. No going anywhere for 2 weeks. You can check with the school and find out if there are any other times she has missed. Drop her off and make her have each teacher sign a paper letting you know she was there OR call the school to check on her throughout the day. My b/f's son did that a couple of times, so he would stop by the school a couple of times a day to check on him(he works 3rd shift, so he had the day to do this). He told him he would keep doing this until he knew he could trust he wouldn't skip school anymore. So far, it's worked.
2006-11-13 06:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
take a day off work and go to school with her sit next to her and every once in a while push her hair out of her face or ask if she needs a tissue let her know that if she ever skips again it will happen again and stick to it check in with the school and let them know that if she is not at school then they need to call you every time if that doesn't work then take her to the welfare office and let her hear the babies cry and see the people in their good will clothes and let her sit there for about an hour until she can't take it any more explain to her that this is where she will end up if she doesn't buckle down and get a good enough education
2006-11-13 06:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Heaven C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she is going to skip school, then you will just start leaving a few minutes earlier and you will deliver her straight to her desk every morning. A little / lot of embarrassment will go a long way! Then ground her for a week!
2006-11-13 06:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ground her...like truly ground her...no friends over, no going over to friends. No phone, no computer, etc... Make her spend the next couple of weekends with you doing whatever YOU want to do. Tell her it's time to have some quality mother-daughter time together...lol. Make her help clean house and get ready for the holidays. Explain to her that not only does she HAVE to go to school by law but that she scared you to death not knowing where she was. Guilt worked on me when my mom caught me. Ask her why she did it and talk to her. Perhaps she has some problems at school or the wrong kind of friends. Best of luck!
2006-11-13 06:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 15 years old..and have to admit ive never do this. A punishment that would be good for me ( i dont know if shes like me) is taking away my computer/cell phone. My parents also disable texting and outgoing/incomeing calls to anyone besides them until i can show ive learned my lesson. My parents have also grounded me from going out with my friends and stuff. Good luck
2006-11-13 07:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grounding doesn't always work butif its worked in the past for her, try it. Otherwise, being a 14 year old girl myself, take away her halloween candy if she has any and/or take her cell phone for a week. and a little tip, simply yelling doesn't help. Chances are shes having trouble at school and is avoiding the stress. Ask her if she needs any help with her homework, if theres anything you can do.
2006-11-13 09:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be all over her and know - not assume - where she is every minute she's away from you. If you're giving her any freedom now, that just ended. She just proved that she can't be trusted. So, don't put your parenting on auto pilot by doling out one punishment and thinking you've solved a problem.
2006-11-13 06:57:22 · answer #11 · answered by kransdorff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋