Sex! Why does it have to hurt 4 first timers. (expert opinions)?

Question

Im 19 and i just started having sex. The first time it hurt, the second time it did and it still hurts everytime i do it.
I think i might even have a little sore spot. And whenever i pee and it catches it, it burns. What can i do so that sex is not so painfull.
My bf says it will take some time for me to stretch cuz im very tight. I think thats the problem

the sore spot is actually below the entrance. I am thinking that maybe to much presure was applied when the penis missed aim

Answer 1

It takes a woman longer than it does a man to become aroused enough for intercourse. My suggestion it that you need to talk with him about four play and lots of it. Make sure that you are RELAXED completely with your muscles so he doesn't make them tense to cause more pain for you. It always hurts a little in the beginning for me but it feels good after a couple of minutes. There is the possibility that he might be endowed so there fore he does need to take more time with you. As for the sore spot...I think it is from the friction and that you were not wet enough to take all of him in. Also another suggestion would be for him to GENTLY finger you a little before hand to stretch you a little bit so it won't hurt as bad. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

that is completely normal, don't worry. it won't hurt after a while. about the sore spot, if you're still unsure go to the doctor. try ky jelly or some type of lubrication

Answer 3

There's no manner for an person lady to understand *if* you can have discomfort... or how a lot it is going to be in case you do... till you truthfully "do the deed". It may also be just a bit pinch that lasts a few seconds, or it may be a particularly nasty *OUCH* that does not leave for hours and repeats for the primary a few occasions you might have intercourse. First... particularly be *definite* you wanna "do it" with this man. You're a virgin, and your first complete-on intercourse *will have to* be with any individual you are particularly gonna wish to *be* that intimate with for a whilst, and I do not simply imply the bodily intimacy seeing that there is plenty of intellectual and emotional stuff that includes the hormones and hangups that fill the sexual territory among companions. You'll be MUCH bigger and happier for selecting one of these character, despite the fact that that "whilst" simplest seems to be a couple of weeks... believe me in this factor, OK? First-timing may also be lovely disappointing for women, no longer simply seeing that it is by and large painful (no less than to start with), but in addition seeing that anxiousness and awkwardness for either one of you'll be able to make it very problematic for *you* to be aware of your possess delight. You do not ought to fear an excessive amount of approximately *his* delight: besides for a few viable emotional stuff, he will revel in it a *lot* - even his first time. Young guys are fortunate that manner, definite, however it is usually an overly infrequent guy certainly (however certainly not a infrequent lady) who will have a few orgasms in not up to part an hour. :-) Advice? Tips? Good matters to devise for and believe approximately? Make definite you might have plenty of privateness for fairly decades (2 hours or extra is a well suggestion) seeing that no longer simplest could there be a few uncomfortable, embarrassing or painful moments alongside the best way, however there is extra to the primary time than simply "doing it", and you can have plenty of stuff to speak approximately afterwards - you do *no longer* wish any of this to be interrupted. When it involves sex, inform your man that *you* would be the one to mention "give up" if something's flawed (like discomfort, or despite the fact that you simply chook out) and that it is as much as him to do not forget that while you inform him "give up". Don't even *check out* until you are very became on and really slippery... a few orgasms first may even aid your vagina to be stretchier and extra insistent on having some thing within - and if you aren't getting very rainy regardless of how attractive you're, have a few water-headquartered lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or equivalent) helpful and it doesn't matter what, pass SLOW till you are at ease. That lube may even aid avert breakage of the condom. Yes, the condom. There's a reputation for persons who depend on "pulling out" as a process of keeping off being pregnant: "mother and father"... or mostly "mother and father with STDs". Any discomfort you can also think will leave in a couple of mins to a few days (mostly there is a little bruising), and after it is over with, whenever might be *a lot* bigger in case you stick with the whole thing above. Oral intercourse may be satisfactory any time at concerned about both character, no less than if either one of them are at ease with it and revel in it. Doing it till the character receiving has an orgasm is nicest, however it is not imperative. (Oh... and there is not anything flawed with a mouthful of hair whilst it tastes like a pretty lady... there is no must be shaved until you find it irresistible that manner your self).

Answer 4

Yes and no.
Yes , you need to stretch some.
No, because you shouldn't be hurting much anymore, try use a lot of lube, such as KY jelly.
Stop him if you are dry and having pain.
He got to understand, if not, he is not a very good friend.
good luck

Answer 5

My first time did not hurt at all but we had a lot of foreplay. It might be good to buy a toy and learn to please yourself because young guys are clueless about what makes a woman feel good.

Answer 6

Totally normal. Since you are not used to having something jammed up you, and the friction, this is the cause. Have your man be gentle!