does fantasy harm a relationship if so how?

Answer 1

only if it's name is dick !!!

Answer 2

i don't think fantasy can harm a relationship unless the fantasy is with another woman/man and that fantasy becomes a reality so therefore your cheating n that can harm your relationship, i think the only other way a fantasy can harm a relationship is if the fantasy is either sick and perverted or just not to the other partners taste and you share this fantasy, that also might but tension on a relationship.

Answer 3

It can absolutely.. sex should be shared between 2 people who care about each other.

However, in our society often women in particular are having sexual relationships with men who thanks to the porn boom see hundreds and thousands of sexual acts, every type of woman possible etc etc

If the sex depicted was not so degrading to women (often refered to in the most despicable terms/seen to be used/abused/discarded.. the female orgasm being irrelevant etc etc) then perhaps this could be a healthy thing - as it stands, it (as proven by most psychological studies in this area) means that male abusers of porn are less able to relate to and cope with a real live woman..

Plus the addictive nature of porn means that a user has to keep upping the ante in order to get the same fix which in reality often means going for every more riske or taboo things.. all of which detracts from what sex should be or how it can enhance the relationship of 2 people.

Evolution never intended our urges/drive etc to be technologically warped in this way - this is new territory - but the notion that all sex is natural or ok is wrong. Sex that hurts other people/where there is a power imbalance/where animals, objects etc are all abused is just wrong.

In the same way that no-one would say that eating all you want whenever you want is great or that getting drunk all day every day is great, sex like everything else is fantastic in the right setting and in moderation - go into the smutty/sleazy realms of some types of sex and I think you lose sight of how sex should be - not a scene from some porn film..but how it should feel - not like the competition it is often made out to be.

Answer 4

A good fantasy every now and then will keep the temp hot in the relationship. You have to start to worry when all you do is fantasize. 100 % fantasy in a relationship is bad - that means no reality, obviously.

Answer 5

Typically no...most people (single or not) fantasize...were issues may arise is if one person of a couple becomes more interested in their fantasy life than their real life...

...or if a couple tries to act out one or the others fantasy, and it doesn't turn out to be a positive experience...some things are best kept only as fantasy...

Answer 6

Fantasy is great for a relationship but we should also remember that it is a very personal experience - what I fantasise about is not necessarily what my husband would understand. In my opinion, one's fantasies should never actually be fulfilled and they should stay exactly what they are - in your imagination and not touching reality!

Answer 7

When the fantasy rules the relationship. you can never win, because your fantasy is always better than real life

Answer 8

Well when you start bringing up hidden desires they become thoughts in the back of your partners head.It may be cool at first but in the long run it's going to cause problems especially if one of you ever gets even a little self conscience or insecure.

Answer 9

What kind of fantasy? My husband and I participate in D/s but only in the bedroom, it's not our lifestyle, and I gotta tell ya, it's been GREAT!

Answer 10

Depends how the fantasy is used... if it is mutual then its fun and can be good

Answer 11

Nope. It's reality that hurts a relationship.