How would handle a situation of that matter? Do you think you would have a choice to choose over your mate or your children especially if you were married? Does it make a difference if your girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife? if either parties didn't like ones children?
2006-11-13 06:15:30 · 16 answers · asked by emotional misstres 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The question was asked do to a movie I saw. " Woman, Thou Art Loosed" If most of you haven't seen the movie... it was about a woman who dated a no good @$$...that ended up cheating on her doing drugs no job and molested her only daugther...but she continue to stay despite of ill manner behavior he represent to her...
We have alot of issue were child abuse is concern...and the women are most to blame b/c they choose to stay in hopeless relationship with men who treat them wrong and their kids...
2006-11-13 06:47:59 · update #1
My second husband didn't show any signs of not liking my kids until after we got married. I thought in the beginning that once he got to know them that things would get better. They did get to know each other, but the relationship between he and my daughter got continually worse. I stayed "because he was my husband". If I had it to do over, I would leave the very first sign of trouble. He had no children of his own and could not relate, when I would try talking to him.
I realize that all men are not the same way. But, my advice would be to anyone with children(man or woman)" if it is possible"try to find out before you marry. Let the person know that you come as a package deal, that they won't come between you and your kids, and if there is a major problem, you won't live in a hellish environment, and neither will your kids.
2006-11-13 06:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bad encounter and one should terminate the relationship if single preventing futher problems. Now if you are married I would suggest your spouse seek counseling. It would make a big difference in one life with someone not liking the children.
2006-11-13 14:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children come first, they are the only thing in life that will ever truly love you. Boyfriends come and go but your child will always be your child. Putting your children off to be with a man/ woman is like putting part of yourself off. they are a part of you!!!!
2006-11-13 14:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by outta my mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not choose anyone over my kids! no how. if they don't get along thats one thing. you'll have that. but if they are trying to make you choose! that's not even right. those are your kids! and if you are married. then they should try everthing they can to make it work. and if it's you're kids that are making you choose. then thats a choice you're going to have to make. i mean you can't not pick you're kids. but you should let them know that you love you're mate. and you shouldn't have to choose. unless they have a good reason for not liking them. then there is not question as to what you should do.
2006-11-13 14:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by l3abygurl42004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question for a second time? Your children need to come first. It's bad enough you're not married and have them, your dating life should now be non-existent. Those kids need to come first - ALWAYS.
IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU.
2006-11-13 14:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it. But you can't make someone like and other person. If the chemistry not there - there is not much you can do. I just hope the person can be reasoned with for the sake of the family unit. If not Good Luck, your going to need it......
2006-11-13 14:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by pikeruss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship with someone who does not like your children, I say get out! Your children should be #1 in your life and never be cast aside for your own personal gratifications.
2006-11-13 14:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't think that I don't like my beau's daughter (2), I think that I don't like how he acts when he has her or the things that he has to go through with her mom when he has her cause he's with me... So it would sort of make my mood sour when she's around... I don't think I like to be around her but I don't think it's her... she's only (2).. I wouldn't make him choose, b/c that sounds crazy.... I don't think it's the kids... if so, then you need to try to get to know them better...
2006-11-13 14:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is more common than you think--and those of us without chn. probably don't like the mate's chn. most of the time. A parent has no choice other than to choose their chn. over their mate--it's their job. So, I wouldn't date anyone that didn't like my chn. if I were a single parent--it wouldn't be fair.
2006-11-13 14:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a know my boyfriend doesn't like my kids I'm not gonna continue the relationship.....has no sense I want my kids happier nor miserables.....âºâ»
2006-11-13 14:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋