if you were married how comfortable would you feel if yor partner ask you to perform in a three-some .?

Question

would you assume hes cheating on you. would you feel your not enough for him.

Answer 1

One woman can never be enough for one man. You need to get a grip on reality. Monogomy is forced on men. He wants another woman because it his nature to want her. Its not biologically intelligent for a man to want to confine his gentic material to one woman. As a woman you cannot understand this need all men feel so you will never be able to comprehend what I mean and you will accuse me of being a bad person or whatever. It doesnt matter, a man only stays with one woman because he chooses to suppress his natural urges for the sake of financial stability or for the sake of his children or because he does not have the attributes which would allow him to spread his DNA all over the place. Every heterosexual male wants to have a threesome, married or not. If they do not there is something wrong with them. It may not be the smartest thing to do if you are married as it is going to cause a good bit of conflict between you. I would recommend you not do this unless you feel comfortable with it but your question alone means you are not. I would not assume he is cheating on you however, he is probably just going crazy with lust for another woman, probably not even anyone in particular, just someone fresh.

Answer 2

I would be fine with it. He is sharing his thoughts with you, instead of hiding his secret desires. That's a good thing, right? His willingness to be open suggests that he isn't cheating, but would rather invite you to be a part of his kinky side. It's not a matter of being enough for him, but rather there are many attractive people out there and for him, experiencing the gifts life has to offer, while remaining true to you might be the best of both worlds. If I were you, I'd feel comfortable with his question and it puts you in a good position to choose the third or other couple? Enjoy!

Answer 3

now a days this is a normal request and the most sought after fantasy out there. Men often ask thier wives to participate mostly be cause they are curious and its great bragging rights to thier buddy's.

and with the right people can be a very pleasuable experience,

however i must warn you it complicates a marrage and often strains a marrage. The first time I had a threesome it was with my wife and another man by her choice and i found myself jealous and couldn't wait for the other guy to leave, and guess what later my wife started seeing this guy when I was not around.

we are now divorced

Answer 4

People don't think enough about the consequences and/or after effects of experimenting in this way. The third party you bring in willl not have the same level of committment and will not be as negatively impacted by what occurs. You can't 'undo' your actions after the fact--and things may not ever be the same. Unless you're totally 'on board' with this idea--tell him straight up that you do not want to participate. You also need to evaluate whether he feels as strongly about your marriage as you do.

Answer 5

I would feel VERY UNCOMFORTABLE about it, so uncomfortable it that he just might loose me all together.

Yes I would assume that he was cheating on me.

I would also feel that I was not enough for him.

He would be without me cause one of the two of us would be moving out. I do not believe in cheating in any shape, size or form. When people start treating sex like that, in my books they are acting like animals and NOT A MARRIED COUPLE.

Answer 6

I would feel completely uncomfortable, hurt, and then self conscious. I would ask myself why? Why does my husband want to sleep with another woman? I would think he didn't love me anymore and he might be cheating on me. I would want to know who he had in mind for this threesome because chances are they already slept together behind my back. Now, you need to ask yourself this question. Where is the love and respect at in my marriage? You deserve better than this man. If it were me I would be map questing directions to a divorce lawyer but remember, I said if it were me. This is your marriage and none of us know your whole situation. You need to do what is right for you. Take care.

Answer 7

It's just a guy fantacy. If you are not in to that, don't try it. The 3-some breaks up a lot of couples because of jealousy. If you give in...it's best for both of you to go to a different city, find a swingers club, and find a complete stranger. If you don't, you will always wonder if he's out with the other when he's not with you.

Answer 8

my husband and i talked about that years ago, I told him I would be cool with a threesome If I could have sex with a guy I met while he watched. He changed his mind quickly and started to do more of the things I LIKE DONE IN THE BED

Answer 9

My Husband and I actually talked about it once, after watching some show on TV, not like discussing having one, but just talking in general about threesomes, and my Husband said he has absolutely no desire to be with anyone but me.

I wouldn't do it even if he wanted to. I love my Husband very much and could not let him sleep with someone else.

Answer 10

I've learned from Yahoo Answers that this is way too common. I am happy with my marriage as it is and have an understanding with my husband. We have talked about this and neither of us would feel comfortable with anyone but each other.

Answer 11

Well, ask him if the threesome is with another guy? If he balks about doing that the tell him he understands why you feel the way you do.

If he agrees to it with no conditions then your problems are bigger than you thought.