My best friend's husband's making passes at me. Should I tell her?

Answer 1

I don't agree with telling her. Not if you value your friendship. Chances are that her husband is flirting with other women too, and that she knows about it. The fact that she's still married to him means she loves the pig enough to live with his bad behaviour. But by telling her you'll put her in a very uncomfortable spot. She'll then assume that you expect from her to do something about it. Like what? is the question. Leaving her husband for the sake of your friendship? I don't think so.

No, I think the best way to deal with this is to confront him yourself. Tell him straight you're not interested and threaten to tell his wife if he doesn't stop.

Answer 2

YES. If your husband was making passes at her, wouldnt you want to know? She needs to get rid of her husband, because he sounds like a bad guy, especially if hes making passes at her BEST FRIEND!!!! Thats so dumb, guys are so dumb. Tell your friend, she will appreciate it coming from you, good friends do the right thing and the right thing in this situation is telling her, you shouldnt even be questioning it. Best friends want the best for their other best friend, and in this case, the best for your friend would be to either seperate, divorace, or seek marriage counseling to save her marriage. If the husband denies it, that WONT make you look bad, trust me, because if your friend is a good friend like you say, then she will believe you 100% over her husband, who is just a cheating dog. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think that if your best friend's husband is making passes at you. There is a few things that you have to ask yourself that I'm I sure that he is? and how is it that it came like this. You must tell her that he is doing this and let her decided that he is doing this and you are not the one that is just making this up and he is really doing this and it should be up to her on what she wants to do about it

Answer 4

If you were my best friend, I don't think you would be for long if you didn't tell me! Sometimes all we have is our friends to really count on. If her husband is making passes at you, that's pretty bold as her best friend. You're probably not the only one and others who aren't her friend or know her may just be taking him up on the pass. Definately tell her!!

Answer 5

NO!!! Mines is doing the same thing and i've learned that everything comes to light in it's own time. Plus when she does find out it will be good that you can comfort her and be there for her. You can't play that position if you are the one that brings her world crashing down.... TRUST ME........Who do you think she''ll blame if he tries to plead his case? The one thing women fail to relize is SEX is a stonger bond than pajama parties.........plus i lost my best friend that same way...I was crazy to think she would believe me over the man she lays next to every night!! YEARS later she came and apologized but it was to late....My best friend of 12 yrs just got married and her husband does the same thing...Every dog has their day.

Answer 6

First tell him that what he is doing is making you very uncomfortable, and that he is betraying his wife, kind of as a warning. Then you need to decide if you want to tell your best friend right away, or wait it out to see if he stops. Good luck!

Answer 7

if you are a true friend then you should tell her. she needs to know that the man she has is no good anyway if she finds out on her own she going to fell you played some kind of role in the whole situation. if you really want you friendship to work out then you should be honest with her.

Answer 8

Yes, I would want someone to tell me if my Husband were doing that.

Answer 9

Tell your best friend that her hubby appears to be a bit frisky with you and you wnat to make sure she knows that you are her best friend and you would never do anything to break the friendship, even if the hubby meant it, which he probably didn't..... That way you save your friendship without being accusatory toward her hubby.

Answer 10

First, tell him that you are not comfortable with his advances. If he still does it, then tell him that you will tell his wife. That should stop the unwanted behavior.

Keep in mind that if you tell your friend, she may become angry at you for "leading him on."

If he persists, then tell your friend that you sometimes feel uncomfortable around him. If she presses, be as circumspect as possible. Remember that your words will hurt her, even if she is aware of his amorous behavior.