It seems like better-looking people have the upper hand?

Question

They get the better jobs, the girls, and general respect

Answer 1

It's one of those facts of life that almost everyone knows but not many want to admit--physical appearance matters. But how much does it matter? Do attractive people get better treatment than others?

According to Dr. Mona Phillips, a professor of sociology at Spelman College in Atlanta, studies have been conducted to prove that attractive people are favored more.

"There is research [pioneered by Dion, Berscheid and Walster] that talks about the `Halo Effect,'" says Dr. Phillips. "This is when people assume that if someone is attractive, then they have other good qualities. It's a clustering of good attributes that are assumed based on one's appearance.

"For example, `attractive' people are smarter and the people who are `unattractive' by society's standards are dumb. Therefore a clustering of their personal attributes get connected to physical `attractiveness' or `unattractiveness."

Dr. Phillips says that attractive people are treated differently because we live in a culture that places a high premium on external appearance.

"There are so many forces that make us think that this is important. A multi-billion-dollar global industry exists that centers on appearance (the fitness industry, the cosmetic industry, the fashion industry). These industries are all built on notions of attractiveness."

Dr. Alvin F. Poussaint, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the Judge Baker Children's Center in Boston, believes that generally people like to be around attractive people because they are more appealing.

"Most people don't want to identify with, or become attracted to, something called `ugly,'" says Dr. Poussaint. "Those kinds of standards are determined by society, and our society is certainly geared toward emphasizing beauty."

Dr. Poussaint explains that even as children we are taught to differentiate between what is considered to be attractive and unattractive from the fairy tales that were read to us.

"People tend to think that those who have attractive looks are more trustworthy or honest than people who are not attractive. That's kind of indoctrinated in our heads," he states.

"In our society they try to project into our heads as little children that people who are crooks and dishonest look like thugs and that the fairy tale character who is a prince or a princess adorable qualities. Think of all the images of people who are attractive and who are also considered to be virtuous; they're all beautiful people."

Even though having good looks does have its advantages, it can have some drawbacks as well, contends Dr. Poussaint.

"Some people who are found very attractive can stir up jealousies in other people who then may reject them," he says.

"If it is felt that the attractive person is in some way coming across as conceited or overemphasizing their good looks, then many people may turn against them. In this case being attractive may not work in their favor," he explains.

Dr. Poussaint notes that in the workplace being attractive may backfire, especially if you are a woman.

He says, "Sometimes if a woman is very pretty and co-workers feel that she's really highlighting her beauty, she may not be seen as being too bright. That will not help her get a promotion."

Dr. Fredrick Work, a plastic and reconstructive surgeon from Atlanta, agrees that attractive people get better treatment than others.

"No question about it," states Dr. Work. "Our society is very much fixated on physical appearance. Attractive people do receive special treatment, and there are more opportunities available to them."

Dr. Work, whose most common procedures among Blacks include breast reductions, tummy tucks, liposuction and keloid removal, says that many people feel pressure to be attractive.

"Before you can even open your mouth to express yourself, people have already formed an opinion about who you are based on your looks," reveals Dr. Work.

"I think many patients who have cosmetic surgery have an increase in their self-esteem and carry themselves with a greater sense of confidence," he says. "When you look good, it makes you feel better, which is picked up by all those with whom they interact. This in turn helps to improve their interpersonal relations with others."

Dr. Work points out that because attractiveness is looked upon so highly in our society, chances are that more people will be undergoing plastic surgery.

"Plastic surgery now is even more affordable," he says. "Everybody is having [it done] from all socioeconomic levels and ethnic backgrounds."

According to Margaret Hunter, an assistant professor of sociology at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles, there are other things that need to be taken into consideration when it comes to physical appearance.

"I don't think you can discuss attractiveness without talking about race because it is so essential in what's considered to be attractive," she says.

Hunter, who is currently researching how skin color and physical beauty affects the lives of women of color, asserts that our culture plays a large role in our classification of beauty.

Answer 2

The upper hand in some ways, as mentioned. But it's more difficult for them to keep a sense of reality going. As a result, it's generally more difficult for them to have meaningful relationships, a truly objective sense of self, and other related manifestations such as depression. Accordingly, they are generally not very happy or satisfied with life (partly because they seem to expect more than the average person). Ugly people have other problems as well. The end-result is that the people who look average are generally the most happy, realistic and well-adjusted folks around.

Answer 3

Maybe they can get their "foot in the door" more easily, but if they are not worthy, and they do not belong in a job they will soon be out.
If they dont' treat the girl well, same thing applies.
It can get you in, but it can't keep you there.

You can make yourself look your best, and keep polishing your skills and learning new things. That will help you get a job.
If you want to get girls, then be nice to them when you meet them. You may not be as smooth or slick, but you can impress girls by being good to talk to and more importantly, a good listener. If you are a caring person, eventually it will show.
Don't begrudge people their good looks.

Answer 4

Not really. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Look at software developers. Nobel peace prize winners. Pulitzer prize winners.

Just because popular media tells you someones attractive doesn't mean they are.

K-fed and Paris don't have my respect.

Answer 5

I believe that to be true. I am overweight and I know for sure that i am discriminated against especially in the job market. I am perfectly capable but that does not seem to matter.

Answer 6

Yes you are so right, that is something sad about reality here. It happens all the time, but you and I know that the better looking people might not be the healthiest or happiest. Who cares about them, care about your own self and loved ones.

Answer 7

What do you mean they get "the girls"?
Are you talking about good looking girls?

Like it or not, looks like you can answer your own question

Answer 8

we are only in no way going to locate with one yet another like that. we are a miles greater blended bag then they are. i think of that that's a hopeless attempt to objective to get atheists to group mutually in the way xtians do. we haven't any curches, no atheist bible, no unifying perception shape. of course the neo-atheist pass atempts to bond us a sprint, yet i in my opinion form of hate what's occurring with this neo-atheist situation. sorry.

Answer 9

they make more money, get the attention of others and reap the rewards of life! but it's really not how you look to others but how you look to yourself!!! we see tons of people who aren't really that hot, unless they have lots of makeup, money, or confidence. so what does that say? we create the image we want projected:)

Answer 10

it's the better-looking people who have confidence also - looks will only get you so far - you gotta be able to back it up with something.

Answer 11

You can say that again...No doubts they do.
This is normal though...You have to be either good looking or rich to enjoy life more.