I have a bad habit of talking. I talk too much and about the wrong things. I can't help it at the time, when I talk it seems innocent enough you know your opinions of things, and people and stuff. Now my words are getting twisted, and I have been accused of ripping people off. I sell things for friends on ebay and now my closest friend thinks I have ripped her off loads, she will not listen to the fact there is ebay before and after fees or paypal fees for me to pay. Now because of this she is sharing my opinions with everyone else and everyone is falling out with me. i am 25 years old and this is silly playground stuff to me. I'd like to do what I can to make it better but no one is letting me. can anyone give me any advice?
I do not know many people and my friends were all moms from my daughters school. I really do no know what to do.
2006-11-13 05:29:37 · 25 answers · asked by greenhorse8179 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she should have got her own ebay account and not used yours. you did a good deed for her and now shes got greedy and wants all the money. you stick to your guns and she will see you are a good friend that did something nice for her. as for talking too much who dosent? its no crime and you keep the conversation alive. im sure you will have many more friends come into your life. keep well xxx
2006-11-13 05:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by louise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A few people in this world share this problem, but what you do about it will determine your future happiness..sorry to put it so. I know a guy who has lost everyone and everything in his life as it got out of control. You must be strong and start to make the change now, it all starts with you. Do you like yourself? Start to like yourself and others will too. Think before you speak, and talk at a slower pace..before you know it people will notice the change. Get a hobby, obviously your mind is bored and needs exercise as much as the body does..before you know it you won't have time or space in your head for it anymore, and will have met new people..think of it as a fresh start. If your friends can not forgive you, then they are not true friends..true friend love you for you, they accept your good and bad points.
2006-11-13 05:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by www welcome to milton keynes .com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advise I have ever received was when someone told me "If people are saying bad things about you then live your life in a way that no one will believe the bad things that are being said". I have found that the more you try and fix things the worse off they get. Time is the best tool in fixing matters such as this. Let things cool down. (just like when we are upset with our children we stop and count to ten or even take a time out before we "punish" them" We have a clearer head to think with.
2006-11-13 05:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by outta my mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it's easier said than done to find new friends and since nobody wants to listen to what you have to say I would suggest writing letters or emails to have your say. That will allow you to get everything off your chest and explain and if after that they still dont want to be your friend then at least you tried and it's their loss. But in the future you should learn from this and practice some restraint when talking. Good luck.
2006-11-13 05:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by SittinPretty! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need printed evidence to back up the fact that you're not ripping her off with the eBay fees.
You can print out the list of charges and show them to her. See 'fees' link below.
You can also get printed reports of previous transactions and the fees involved on eBay. Go to the main page of eBay (2nd link), click on 'My eBay' to review your previous transactions.
Talk to each one of your friends, ask them what they have been told about you, correct anything thats wrong and apologise for anything bad you've done thats actually true. Then invite them to go shopping or something.
2006-11-13 05:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by ricochet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go find yourself another circle of friends then. Obviously they aren't mature enough to take your advice and think they know best. You could do without tittle tattle so dump them and go look elsewhere.
Have it out with each of them one by one and see who u can get the truth out of. Like you say at age 25 you shouldn't be arguing over silly things.
2006-11-13 05:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you. However you must learn to be careful when you are talking. I don't think those moms you say are your friends are very good friends. So I suggest you find some more friends. Do a night class or somethingwhich might interest you.
2006-11-13 05:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by traceylill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you never say anything about someone that you wouldn't say to their face. Never lie, never hold back if you are called on it. Also, get some more mature friends. As far as the Ebay stuff, don't mix "business" with friendship. Don't sell your friends' stuff for them, don't buy it for them.
2006-11-13 05:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is whn u discover who yr real friends r grl, keep the good trash the rest, ur gonna find that like is full of dumb *** people, u will find some good friends but mucho fake friends, so be the most honest with people even if u talk alot but u might wanna work on that too cuz its never good to talk too much especially to everyone thats only for yr bff's. member tht grl it happ's. good luck!
roxy*
2006-11-13 05:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by ))-->rOXY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have proof of costs to you present them to her and say its all here in black and white ,, I also say don't sell stuff for friends as they will always say they are being ripped off, They will just say you are giving better deal to someone else you know.
2006-11-13 05:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋