My boyfriend has 3 kids he is going to start a new job this week and will work Mon-Sat but i really want to tell him that we can't hang with his kids every sunday otherwise we won't time for each other i really need advise because i don't know how to tell we live together and i like his kids they are very cute but i don't know how to put it in words. He sees them at least once a week. what should i do.
2006-11-13 05:22:24 · 12 answers · asked by Gina81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is a tough situation...I'm in one similar. I would tell him how you feel...DON'T give him an ultimatum on choosing his kids or you because chances are you will loose. Maybe you guys can work something out where half the time you spend with his kids and the other half is just you two. You have to let him know how you feel though otherwise you'll go crazy and be bitter about him not spending any alone time w/you.
2006-11-13 05:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, my friend, single parent is a package deal. If you love him, you have to accept that his kids are a part of who he is.
If you live with him, you probably get to see him quite a bit. You will just have to settle for your dates being at night during the week, instead of during the day on Sunday. Try to compromise that once a month he will spend half or all of Sunday with you instead of with his kids.
Ultimately, if you push it, he will have to choose them over you, and that's how it should be.
2006-11-13 13:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you're asking him to tell his 3 kids that dad can't be with him because his girlfriend wants him to hang with her? Maybe you should try seeing him once a week like his kids do and see how you like it.
Find a new boyfriend. This one's family needs to come first.
2006-11-13 13:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Sunday is the only time he can see his kids, then you should let him spend time with the kids. If you want your relationship to become more serious and possibly evolve into marriage, then you're going to have to also spend time with the kids. They are a part of his life, so accept that.
2006-11-13 13:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by usmcwife722 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should probably not try to make him choose between you and his kids....You'll lose! Take the kids into consideration...once a week?? and you think this is enough time for children to see their father?? You should probably consider a relationship where there are no children involved, so that you can be the center of attention.....
2006-11-13 13:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get used to it! these are his kids and his responsibility, at the very least.they are a package deal. if you were my gf and you told me anything like this i would drop you worse than a bad habit. kids come first!if the only day i could see my kids was on Sunday you better believe come hell or high water id be there.
2006-11-13 13:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by donald k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to sound mean or anything but his kids are his kids, and you're just the girlfriend. If that's the only day he can spend with them then don't come between that. And if you like that, then get another guy.
2006-11-13 13:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already see some of the baggage this man is carrying
If you pursue the relationship you know that this is what your married life will look like until his youngest reaches 18 at least.
You have the facts in front of you, you have YOUR future in front of you...the choice is yours to make.
2006-11-13 13:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth are you doing with a guy with 3 kids? Find a guy with no kids and make your own. I will give your BF props because he sees his kids, but you need something better. Never, ever date someone with kids......
2006-11-13 13:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There his kids deal with it and be glad that he spends time with his kids like he does most men dont!!
2006-11-13 13:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by momof2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋