ok, my mate got a laptop. well i was havin a lil mess with it infront of him, and i went to the 'recently opened documents' and i found quite a few.. 'gay teen porn', files on there... he saw this and imediatly went white and totaly changed the subject. he didn't come out since, or even go to college... couple days later, a mate of mine foned him up and asked him wut was goin on and if he was gay... and well.. he answered 'wuts it to you?' he wouldn;t give a stright yes or no... he doesn;t seem gay.. but hes never had a gf as such.. and he never talks about girls in a way like.. u know.. he don;t even check them out as such. wtf is goin on?!? so, who ever u are answer!... 'GAY' or 'NOT' u don;t need a reason.. just answer... pleaseeeee....
2006-11-13 05:20:20 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
don;t worry, hes like my best mate... i know him for 5 years, we like bros... its just really odd about this.. .. but, if this happend to ur friend.. wut the hell would u think!?!?!?!? am not makin fun at all... and i know tht if he saw this he would call me a **** an all but we would deffinetly laugh about it!
2006-11-13 05:34:31 · update #1
I Don;t know if to call him.. or just wait and see him!?!? HELP GUYS!!!!!!
2006-11-13 05:41:14 · update #2
Dude, he is probably TOTALLY freakin out that his best bud caught him with gay porn on his computer. I would be. The best thing to do? Just say, "Yeh, about that stuff on your computer - pfffft - no problemo. We're buds. Don't worry about it, it's between you and me." ...and give your most sincere look and smile. Maybe even joke - like - "you don't have one of ME on there do ya?!" ...and laugh. Simply make him feel okay about you "knowing", to whatever extent, that he has some gay curiousity or leanings.
2006-11-14 09:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Blonde 501s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you're his best pal!
What kind of friend would go out and tell the world about something that has so much potential to harm the reputation of your friend.
I think you are a blot on the name of any human relationship. You've shown yourself as having weak integrity and unmanly.
As far as being 'gay' is concerned, No he is not gay, unless he is genuinely feminine.
Gay is not what it is stated to be, and neither is straight so.
Gay is actually a space for half-man, half-woman males who like men. Thus it is not a same-sex, but opposite sex space. In any other culture a relationship between a man and what the west calls 'gay' (i.e. half-man/ half-woman) is considered 'heterosexual'.
A sexual desire of a man for another man cannot be the same as that of a half-man, half-woman for another man.
The truth of the matter is that, same-sex need is a primary need of most of 'man'kind. The heterosexual society has a vested interest in preventing men from bonding sexually with men. Because, if that is allowed the marriage institution will collapse. The mechanism that the modern west has developed for preventing it is called "sexual orientation", where men who own up their sexual need for men (or are caught, as in your friend's case) are clubbed together with the 'half-man/ half-woman" population as 'gays'.
That is what keeps straight men from fighting their sexual need for men, all their life. Some of them may secretly indulge in their fantasies but they neither see themselves as 'gay' nor want to be known as such, even if they are exclusively into men. The only option they have is to hide their sexual feelings --- to avoid the gay label being enforced upon them.
On the other hand, half-men/ half-woman males just love the 'gay' label.
A lot of men on the other hand, who don't deserve to be straight are wrongly classed into the straight world just because they like women, when they are actually queer.
Remember 90% of transgendered males are heterosexual.
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On the advice about what to do in the previous response, I'd say, the best thing to do would be to just forget that you ever saw what you did...... like it never happened.
Of course, if you told others, then it is already too late.
2006-11-17 17:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of the evidence says he's gay. So what if he's gay? Big deal. You said he was a close friend and like a brother to you. True friends are hard to find. He's probably really scared so just be a good friend, be supportive and let him know it's okay.
2006-11-13 14:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he probably is gay. He may even be confused about it right now. He may not even be sure if he is or not. Just give him a call and act normal. Don't say anything about him being gay. Don't ask him any gay questions either.
2006-11-13 08:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you comprehend, i in my opinion hate it whilst people say "I haven't any issue with gay people, yet"..... or "I haven't any issue with gay people different than"... even though! only enhance up and in case you do not in basic terms like the full guy or woman for who they are, then only go away us on my own!!! Why could you manage ANY individual in a distinctive way? you're actually not from now on than us. And yeah, my buddies manage me a sprint distinctive, yet it is by the fact i'm surprising and that they continuously call me for a solid time!!! enhance up.... EDIT: I mentioned that because of the fact i grew to become into proving a element, MR. guy..... I mentioned you're hypocritical because of the fact i don't comprehend the thank you to declare which you like something for decrease than area of it and in contrast to the rest?? the two you like it or you do not. Make up your innovations. Oh, and by ability of ways, i'd desire to care much less in case you like me or not. i'm nonetheless going to be me and be surprising at it!!!
2016-10-22 00:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you need to remember is that lots of gays, if not most, don't "act" gay. the only reason people think gays act a certain way is because what they see on the tv.. but the tv also portrays all muslims as terrorists and all african americans as thugs.. when only it's a minority who may be that way.
i would say yes, he is gay, which is hott.. lol. if he had gay porn on his computer, and then tells the person "what's it to you" he obviously is. and that's great!! lol
so yeah, i would say yes, he's gay. being gay is hard, so please try and be there for him. :)
2006-11-13 05:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Me lol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you found gay teen porn files on his computer doesn't automatically mean he is gay. He could be just curious or another innocent reason (if porn could be innocent). If you truelly are his friend he will tell you if he is eventually. Don't pressure him about it, it will only push him away.
2006-11-13 05:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Janhellyca 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may be gay, or maybe just confused with his sexuality. It maybe safe to say hes gay but sont hound him for the answer. Gay men are really shy when its comes to forward answers. Maybe you shouldnt bring itup anymore until he feels the need to talk about it.
2006-11-13 06:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, he is gay and is afraid of being ridiculed by his friends - such as what you are doing now. Nice job proving your friends suspicions correct....
2006-11-13 05:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well can i ask you why it matters if hes gay? maybe you went about it completly wrong. you shouldent have had another fren phone him. you should of asked him then tell him it doesent matter and that ur there for him. also if it was gay teen porn i hope it was 18 n older if not then ur friend has a pedophilia problem. other than that dont ostrisize him if hes suppose to be ur friend maybe he doesent feel comfortable enuf around you to tell u.
2006-11-13 05:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋