She has a 2 year old and a 2 month old. Last night she started having some violent thoughts about her babies, which she regreted the moment she thought them. But she is still really shook up about it and she sounds terrible. Her husband had to stay home from work today because she is so fed up. She's starting to loose it, and isn't open to calling her doctor because she's afraid they'll take the kids or something.
What can I do?
2006-11-13 05:10:02 · 15 answers · asked by Lesley C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She is the kind of mother who has never had a baby sitter. She refuses to let even her husband watch the kids for more then 20 minutes at a time. Also she's nursing so meds may be difficult because of that.
2006-11-13 05:24:41 · update #1
I am a mother of five children and can totally understand the frustration and desperation that your friend is going through. I have had postpartum depression following the births of all of my children. It is nothing to be ashamed of but needs to be addressed by a physician or mental health professional immediately. I found that with proper support and medication from a psychiatrist I was able to function well again. As her friend, and as what sounds like her only form of real support, you should reassure her that she is not crazy but that she needs to get professional help. There are even support groups out there for new moms with these issues. She is not alone! Assure her that things will get better if she seeks help.
2006-11-13 05:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend & take the kids to your house for a while if you are able to. Let the new parents have some time alone. Also let your friend know that postpartum depression is very common. She would not lose her kids if she went to her doctor for help. There are several medications that would help her. This disorder is caused by a hormonal imbalance & is not a psychiatric disorder. Let her know that there are support groups for this as well. It may be an enormous relief for her to know that she is not alone.
2006-11-13 05:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by jodi g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well then her husband should call the doctor! They wont take her kids away. but if this gets any worse she could really hurt her children. If her husband doesnt want to get her help! you are her friend and obviously you care other wise you wouldnt be on here asking questions for her. You could call her doctor. Or anyone in that could help her out! she needs to seek help a.s.a.p dont just sit around watching it happen!
2006-11-13 05:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At wal-mart there are vitamins for moods that will help some, but she really should go to the dr she doesn't have to tell them that she had bad thoughts about the babies she should just tell them she has been crying and moody this happens quite often it is the hormones and dr's are used to seeing it. If you are able keep the kids for her and let her have a break every now and then some alone time with her husband would be great you really should try to convince her to go to the dr.
2006-11-13 05:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like postpardom depression, I suffered from after my 3rd child. They wwillnot take her children away from her if she sees a doctor which see should definatly do so they can give her either medication or referr her to a conusoler. But let her know they will not take her children she has not hurt them and she does take care of them. It's nice to know she has a great husband that is willing to make sure she is Ok.
2006-11-13 05:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds terrible, talk to her hubby he needs to help her, they will not take her kids away, she dosent have to tell them her exact thoughts maybe that she feels depressed and not happy at all. They will still get her some meds, even that are safe for the baby when she is breast feeding. This is unbelievebly common!
2006-11-13 05:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to the doctor NOW!!!!!!!!! She needs to get help before she hurts someone or herself. Have her husband call the doctor. If it is that bad that he actually had to stay home then she needs help. If she doesn't want to get help have her husband step in. The won't take he kids unless she follows through and hurts someone. Please help her!!!! Help her kids.
I hate to see stuff that happens on the news....when someone could of stepped into help. You care......but make the difference and get involved.
2006-11-13 06:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try arranging to get her out of the house and away from the babies......get a reliable sitter and get her out of there. If you can, make it a weekly event for her to have some alone time. Also, tell her it's ok to talk to her Dr. He has been through this before and can offer some help...........
2006-11-13 05:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her husband needs to call her doctor ASAP. No one is going to take her kids
2006-11-13 05:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by schoolot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to call her doctor, she is depressed, they will be able to help her, do you want anything bad to happen to those kids. She needs help she isn't the only one going through post pardon depression.
2006-11-13 05:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by shorte716 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋