Well just this recently his mother made a visit to my parent's house to talk with my parents, she was mad and pissed off because of what happen to be a hear say from her youngest son. Saying that we were getting engaged but his mother was furious with me and sayed she wouldn't allow us to be dating anymore and sayed by the end of this week we better be over with each other and moved on to different relationship but the truth is He still loves me and doesn't care what his mother says, so we have been snicking around on her but she still knows we are going strong and just last night he told me not to worry about this, But this morning I woke up to see his mom at my front door banging on the door like a damn cop. I was like what the ****? what is she trying to do? than he comes out of his vehcile knowing waht met happen next i was like what is all this and to tell you the truth he stood up for me talking back to his mother.So what should i do i know he is probably gonna pop the question.
2006-11-13 05:08:38 · 18 answers · asked by Tilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well we have been in this relationship for about 4 years now and growing very stronger in our love.Yes!! we finished with school and are the right age for being engaged. Yes we are working on our career goals,but we are seriously in love and we were discussion to get engaged to each other so we could have a solid relationship!! :-)
2006-11-13 06:39:37 · update #1
If you love him then marry him if he asks. Your and his parents shouldn't have any influence on you love for each other. If his mother doesn't like you thats her loss. When you marry someone it's just between you that person and God nobody else has anything to do with it.
My husband's mother didn't like me before we got married, we dated for 3 years before we got married and that whole three years was miserable when we where around each other, it's gotten better now that she's realized that he is no longer her baby boy, but a grown man and has his own life. Stay with him if you love him and things will eventually get better, just let her know that you aren't a threat to her and kill her with kindness. Good luck, and prayers.
2006-11-13 05:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Tilly, for GAWDS SAKE stay in school! Sneaking around when his Mother told him to not see you anymore, is not right either. If your man wants to see you, then he will see you. If his Mother wants to put a stop to it, banging on your door won't help. She should be talking to him and not you. In any case, not knowing your age or circumstances, I would say this relationship has trouble written all over it. While you may be old enough to get pooped the question, are you old enough to get married? Do you have agood education? Wait wait, what am I saying? Does he have a good education? Can he support you? If not, you may have to hold off on the reception a little longer. Good luck!
2006-11-13 05:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some mothers are over possessive with their son and is just jealous to know that he loves someone else. Decide for yourself if you want to stick with that unhealthy relationship and snicking out with him. You are still unmarried to him so decide if you still want to have a mean mother in law. You are lucky to know what kind of family you will get into before tyong the knot. What a horrible scandalous mother he got !.
2006-11-13 05:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your bf's mum's a total twunt. Why don't you really get on her nerves by having your bf impregnate you. Now that would get some laughs.
Whatever you do, do not let his mother get into your skin. Her behavior leads me to believe that she is insecure around other women having more power than her. This explains why she treats you so badly. If she ever snaps at you, do not obey her or let her push you around and command her to speak to you with respect. Otherwise, threaten his mom by indicating that you are pregnant. That will make her have a nervous breakdown and you can usually keep it a secret that you aren't pregnant for about 2 months or so. It will be enjoyable watching his mom become a stress case.
2006-11-13 05:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a mother does that to test the two. If the two of you stay together on the long run she will learn to live with it The two of you may have to move a little away because she will try to pull the two of you apart. If you feel that you can put up with the stress, go for it. I am letting you know that the road will be hard.
My friend and I had both side of the family tried to put us apart because of our age. We had stayed together. They had learn to deal with it. He has pass away, but his family know that I cared and love him alot. You have to be strong and make sure that the BOTH of you are ready!
2006-11-13 05:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by funoburgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you should base your relationship on how much you care about the person, not on how much his mom cares about you. some mothers are real possessive of their sons and act up because they think the girlfriend/wife will replace them. unfortunately, you have to consider the fact that the mom may act like this for as long as you two are together. you two need to discuss how you will handle his mom acting up so you two won't divorce in the future over her before you engage.
2006-11-13 05:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Cheyne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this is how you want to live the rest of your life, with a mother in law who not only dislikes you but disrupts your life, then prepare yourself for years of drama and upset. It's too bad your boyfriend was willing to sneak around and chase after his mommy, rather than resolve the issue. It's your life.
2006-11-13 05:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean honestly that's drama put how is you gonna marry a man who mother doesn't like you once you marry him you are also marrying his family and that's hid mother you are going to have to see alot of her and why would you want to be in a relationship with a boy who talks back to his mother if he doesn't respect her then how will he respect you unless you could sit down and talk to his mother about this and y'all all get an understanding.
2006-11-13 05:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not very often that a man stands up to his mother for the woman he loves. Stick with him, sounds like a keeper.
2006-11-13 05:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all that matter is that you love each other...u dont have to live with his mother...u have to live with him...she can *****, moan and complain all she wants ...the bottom line is - the decision lies with you and ur bf....if he loves u and not a mamma's boy then you shouldnt be afraid of her...be respectful tho...do not be nasty to his mother...i would say ignore her and see where your bf wants to be...sitting at home being babied by his mommy or be a man and be with the love of his life....wish u all the best....
2006-11-13 05:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋