2006-11-13 05:05:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Of course they're not! At least he's your fiance and not your husband. Dump him. If he is not faithful now, he never will be. Just be sure to make him pay child support once the baby is born.
2006-11-13 05:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by EmLa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i find it kind of unnerving that i seem to be the only man (at least so far) answering the question about how selfish men are...
anyway, men by nature are predators. i'm one of those nice unselfish guys. I'm not bad looking, i consider myself intelligent and can hold my own in a social setting.
it might a categorization of age (i'm 21) but i very commonly get passed up by women my age in favor of a tougher, in a sense meaner guy. i consider those types to be very dull in that they all appear to be the all same to me.
what i'm getting at is that perhaps many men learn from an early age that to court a woman's attention, it's a dog-eat-dog world. their experience meld into their belief systems and they become steadily more "manly" and self centered. fortunately for the human race, there are those that ignore all that nonsense and try to do the right thing always :)
perhaps your fiance got a cold wakeup call on what it really means to be a man when you became pregnant. i wouldn't think he's developed the interpersonal skills required of his age yet...he doesn't seem to be done playing the predator yet, for this i'm sorry :(
2006-11-13 13:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. Not all men are like this........but you have to be strong and make the right decisions for yourself. I am not a religious person at all.....but this is partly why I believe that you should be married when you have children.......I also don't believe in too many birth control "accidents"....any reasonalbly smart adult can prevent a pregancy .....you had better rethink your whole relationship with this guy. He sounds like a selfish pig. That type rarely changes.
2006-11-13 13:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not all men r. if i were u i would get out of that relationship right now, before he ends up hurting u. it sounds like to me that he wants other women than just u, if u dont leave now, i think in the end he will end up leaving u. and getting hurt is never fun. right now while u r pregnant this is your time, and u would think that since u r caring his child that he would be just a little bit more focused on u and not other relationships that he wants.
2006-11-13 13:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by greengrass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to us please. get out while you still can. do not marry him. at least put it off until things are worked out and he proves to be a good father AND potential husband. there is no rush. a divorce costs way more than a wedding. if you wait, and decide to leave all you have to do is pack your bags or his and go. With a divorce, the drawn out legal process causes stress and keeps the pain lingering. if you decide not to take our advice, please seek counseling and think of how this will affect your baby more than anything. a kid with two happy parents at separate houses if WAY better than a kid that has to see miserable parents together.
also, being a single mom is tough, but build your support system with loving friends and family members and you and your baby will be fine. trust me, it's not that bad. it hurts, but you move on and be much happier in the long run.
2006-11-13 13:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by weddingshouston 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most men are selfish, but hes taking it over board. he may feel bad about having sex with you while pregnant, my man was the same hes out of it now. But you also have to be careful, if he asked about it, more than likely he is feeling guilty b/c its already happening. take precautions.
2006-11-13 13:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God I hope not!!! If that were my finance I would kick him right in the balls so even if he wanted to have an open relationship hopefully you would have given birth by the time he was able too
2006-11-13 13:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Beck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No all men are not like this! Are you sure you want to marry someone like that. I have been married 24 years and my husband has never asked me something like that!
2006-11-13 13:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! Some (alot) of men find their pregnant girlfriends, wives, etc. extremely attractive.
2006-11-13 13:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they are not. This is why a woman should be very careful and get to know the man she is marrying before she actually marries him.
2006-11-13 13:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋