he doesn't know the value of money! i let him use my cell for 1 month b/c he lost his and he racked up my cell bill. he took my debit card out of my purse with out telling me! he never does the right things and it agravates me i feel like i should be his mom sometimes but i dont want to be. he says he dont tell me things b/c of what i am going to tell him. so he knows its wrong. he just dont know how to save ANY money if he knows he has it it is going to spend it. i am thinking his mom taught him well b/c she does the same to his dad and she has a money problem too! i never hide anything from him why would he hide things from me!Please help i dont know what to do i need to know b4 we buy a house together or srew up my life b/c of him
2006-11-13 04:38:35 · 12 answers · asked by Brit. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to ask....kick his butt to the curb and be glad the lesson you have learned hasn't cost you more.
I can't believe anyone would put up with this kind of behavior and history for 4 1/2 years.
2006-11-13 04:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask what he would do if you took his card, but he probalbly doesn't have any money, so it would not matter. I would sit him down and let him know that you wold like to keep your money seperate and do not want him to take your card. My boyfriend and I own a home together and he pays the mortgage, I pay the bills and take care of groceries because I don't like co-mingling my money. I have also told him that it will remain that way even after we get married this spring. The #1 cause of arguments and divorce are money and that is what I told him. We do share, if I don't have enough for a bill he'll pick up the slack if he can and if he needs gas money, he'll ask me for it. Don't marry him until he takes financial responisbility for himself and if he doesn't get rid of him. If you are financialy capable, buy a home yourself. You will be bound for divorce if you can't fix the money issues.
2006-11-13 12:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hiding things from you because he knows he is in the wrong. Do NOT buy a house or anything jointly with this man until he gets his finances in order. You will only be in for a lifetime of misery. Change the PIN number on your debit card and split all expenses equally. If he loves you, he will commit to a budget and keeping track of finances. If it's important to you, it should be important to him.
2006-11-13 12:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's giving you the obvious signs that he does not know how to manage money. Nor can he be too trust worthy if he is stealing from you. If you have no problem marrying a lying man who can't manage money then go for it.
If you rather take heed to the signs he is giving you, dump him now before he spends up all your money and dumps you.
2006-11-13 13:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not this boy's mother, so you have no obligation to keep funding him. If you do insist on keeping this man, he will ruin your credit rating, as well as your life. Your money is for you to decide how to spend.
Also, he clearly has no respect for you, if he takes from you without you knowing. Would you really want to spend your life with him, or buy a house with him with this sort of attitiude?
2006-11-13 12:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by moonshadow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a two way street, but this guy of yours looks like he's hitching a ride.
If he can't handle his money you will NEVER have a house or he will take out a second/third loan against it and lose it.
Dump the guy.
2006-11-13 13:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is such a problem to you, how do you expect being married to this man? You better get used to the way things are, because this is how they're going to be for as long as you're with him. Please don't think that just because you two get married he's going to miraculously change - he won't! Unless you're prepared to put up with this kind of stuff for years to come - find yourself a better mate.
2006-11-13 12:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol...Open your eyes lady! He is a loser and a mooch! he is never going to change and will always drag you down. Dump his azz and find another.
2006-11-13 12:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him that he needs to be more responsible or your going to leave him... if he really cares for you he will straighten up his act and grow up and not want to hide things from you
2006-11-13 12:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him quick. He's have you in the poor house.
2006-11-13 12:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋